Post # 1
I am getting married next year and I am just planning for everything and just want to get a head start. The thing that worries me is that I do not have family to have a bridal shower. Do I need to have a bridal shower? Is it common to not have one? We are also having a small wedding so I only have 2 bridesmaids and i don’t know who else to invite to a bachlorette party or if people would even attend. Would it look bad if i only had my bridesmaids with me for my bachlorette party?
Post # 3
Showers and pre-wedding parties are not required. They are often hosted by wedding party members or family in honor of the bride or the couple. Brides do not generally host their own parties (because it’s considered to be in poor taste to host a party in your own honor).
If you only have 2 BMs, maybe you could offer to have a girls’ night in or go out for dinner and cocktails instead of a wild night on the town complete with phallic paraphernalia.
ETA- I forgot to mention that it is poor etiquette to invite people to pre-wedding events if they are not invited to the actual wedding as well. You mentioned a small wedding which I misread as a small wedding party… reading fail!
Post # 4
You don’t have to have any of those parties. Everyone’s situation is different. I would leave the worrying about who to invite to your maid of honor if she opts to throw a shower. I didn’t ask for any parties and each of my BMs threw one (I also had 2 BMs). Then the Thurs before the wedding I had my bachelorette and just announced to my friends that whoever is in town and available is totally welcome to to come out. There were 10 of us in total.