(Closed) Need advice for finding an officiant for an interfaith wedding

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hi Strawaq7.  You can find priests & rabbis who will co-officiate, but it gets tricky.  It will be easier if your fiance is a reform Jew–conservative Jews are not quite as likely to co-officiate.

That being said, I met with my fiance’s reform rabbi last week and he made it clear that while he is glad I’m becoming part of their congregation, there’s no way he’ll perform our wedding.  (Which was disappointing, but we did know that going in.  I was just bummed with how the whole meeting turned out.)

In any event, to search for a Saturday night co-officiating rabbi, I’d recommend checking out http://www.interfaithfamily.com.  It’s been really helpful for me as I try to figure out how I want to blend out two traditions.  The section on planing interfaith weddings is here: 


The site as a whole is aimed more towards living Jewishly, but is very accepting and pretty balanced.  I hope it helps.  (And I hope the links came through as links.  For some reason my computer and weddingbee don’t like to make links together…)

Good luck! 

Post # 4
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - The Pearl S. Buck House

I am working on the very same thing! We are lucky. My fiance’s family is very active in their Reconstructionist Jewish congregation. Their Rabbi is going to co-officiate with a priest… and I was lucky on the Catholic front because my Godmother’s cousin is an Oblate Priest who is very understanding and open minded. I am nervous about the Pre-Cana marriage prep part of things, and balancing expectations from each officiant and each side of the family.  But definitely do your homework and you’ll find a priest and a rabbi. We had to be flexible with our date, and we’ll be traveling a bit to meet with them. But it will be worth it in the end. Good luck strawdaq7!!

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