- 9 years ago
I’m writing this under a different name just in case my friend could ever see this. So here I go:
My best friend is 24 and just got her first boyfriend. They’ve been dating maybe 4 months (probably a little less), and it already seems so serious to me. She says they’re in love, which is fine, I understand some people just feel that early on, and there’s definitely nothing wrong with that.
Her Boyfriend or Best Friend is in med school and will be starting his residency next year. He may be placed in a different city, and they’re already talking about the future. He’s told her he will not do the long distance thing, and he basically expects her to move to wherever he is. She’d have to give up her condo and job and her friends to move to where he is.
The other night he was asking about how they would divide up the chores. Like, what would she do and what would he be responsible for. It all just seems SO fast to me. I understand that they love each other. I just feel like he’s kind of being pushy wanting to get engaged and her move whereever he ends up, and I just worry that instead of getting to enjoy having a boyfriend for the first time and experiencing all the new things that come with that, it seems like it’s moving so fast and it’s so serious already.
They’ve also had talks about living together and all that stuff. I mean, they’ve been dating for maybe 4 months. It seems so rushed to me.
I have been friends with this girl for 20 years, and I am so happy she has found someone she loves. Everyone deserves to find someone that makes them happy. I have, and she definitely deserves it. She has such a great heart, and her friendship means the world to me, so I just want to look out for her always.
Do you see any red flags or would you be concerned? Maybe I’m over-reacting?
She has been such a good friend to me, and I just don’t know if I should say something or bite my tongue some more. I’m meeting him in a couple weeks, so maybe my feelings will change, but I just already have doubts about it all, and I hate feeling this way about it.