Post # 16
rosegoldgirl: Stubborn? Check. Abusive? Check. Immature? Check.
I hate feeling this way – and it really isn’t easy to just deal with it. Legal fees I have been quoted to deal with this mess are 10-15K, which is why I never pursued that option. I just figured the bank HAD to deal with it at some point. And now that they are, and he is worried about the head being chopped off of his golden goose, he is finally contacting me, and making it look like he wants to get me off of the note because I “wanted nothing to do with the property”. In reality, he’s just a greedy !*&$er and an abuser. He’s blatantly abusing the system and sticking it to me in the process…
Thank you for the words of support. You are right – it will be over, soon, and I will be able to move ahead with MY life. A life without him (once and for all, sheesh!) and one where I can look in the mirror every morning and see a good and honest heart…
Post # 17
codysgirl16: I don’t have any advice since I’m not a lawyer (I am marrying one but he doesn’t do real estate law and we’re in another country) but I just wanted to say your ex sounds like the king of all jerks and I’m sorry you have to deal with this. Hopefully this can all be resolved soon and you can have him out of your life once and for all.
Post # 18
I’m a lawyer, but don’t do real estate. Glad that you’ve contacted one in your jurisdiction. PP mentioned it briefly, but it needs reiterating: has there been a lease signed with these tenants? Have they been notified of the auction? Depending on your local law and the situation, these tenants may have a claim against you as the owner. You really do need to speak to a lawyer asap for your own protection. Good luck, OP.
Post # 19
I was in a very similar situation! I live in ontario though and ended up going to court to have a judge force the sale of the house. (So many thousands of dollars later)
I wasn’t able to do anything about his renters other than MAKE SURE your home insurance company knows that he has renters living there. My lawyer told me that my ex’s renters could destroy both of us if something ever happened to them because our home insurance wouldn’t cover people renting the house that they didn’t know about
from my experience, just expect that every law that you think will protect or help you will not. even though he is the low life bad guy, you will still be treated 50-50. The sooner you can cut ties the better.
NOTE TO EVERYONE: don’t buy a house with someone unless you’re engaged/married! I learned that one the hard way 🙁