- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Question for the (especially new) Mommy Bees!
So I would like to ask my cousin to be my matron of honor. She had a baby about a week ago. I’m not the least bit knowledgeable about pregnancy and childbirth so IDK, I assumed she’s on bedrest and a cranky exhausted mess because…I mean…she just had a freaking BABY. Evidently I need to have a seat because it’s not that serious, lol. As it turns out, she posts on the internet often and responds to my emails in a fairly timely manner. I now have the idea that she’s just a normal lady living a normal life, who has a few extra responsibilities because of the new baby.
We’ve talked generally about her being Maid/Matron of Honor for me but she’s had so much going on this last couple months that I feel like I want to officially ask in case it has slipped her mind. But I just wonder, how would YOU feel about someone asking you to make such a big commitment after you just had a baby? Is it insensitive to ask her now? I don’t want to put her on the spot or pressure her to say yes, either. I would LOVE to have her, but completely understand if she won’t be able to do it.
I’ve seen some of you comment on other threads that you shouldn’t automatically unbridesmaid someone because they’re pregnant…but what if they have a newborn? Same rules apply?