- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
I have been stalking the boards for over a year now, but finally need some advice of my own. Darling Husband got married a few months ago, and he has 3 children from a previous marriage (this is my first marriage). He has 2 daughters (ages 12 and 8) and a son (age 6). His ex-wife and kids live in Chicago, and we live in Dallas. He flies to see them at least once a month (I go with him usually every other month) and they stay with us in Texas for extended periods of time during school breaks. We also Skype with them almost every day. Darling Husband and I began dating a little over 2 years ago, and I met his kids for the first time about a year and a half ago. Since then we I have gotten very close with them, and we all get along very well. His daughters were my bridesmaids in our wedding.
My issue is, I have never outwardly told them “I love you.” I just don’t know how I should go about it. I know I am probably over-thinking it, I just don’t want to make them uncomfortable (especially the 12-year-old daughter) and I don’t want them to think I am trying to take the place of their biological mom. I am sure they know that I love them (I show them affection–give them hugs, hold their hands when we walk down the street, etc), but I would like to tell them. I am going to see them in a little over a week. I usually tuck them in at night with their dad…I was thinking maybe I should just say it nonchalantly after their dad does, and then maybe start using it more frequently after that? Any advice from other stepmoms would be greatly appreciated!