(Closed) Need advice from those who bought a house together before engagement

• MsMamaBear
• 9 years ago

I bought my house. He never suggested buying together and if he had, I would have told him no. I wanted a house, the price was right and I wasn’t going to sit around waiting til the housing market got better and I missed a steal waiting til we got married to buy.

• Mrs.Jansen
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: April 2012

We bought a house before we got married but I still did not feel married but it did help calm my insecurity about his level of commitment to me. 

• Bdorsett
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: September 2012

My fiancé and I bought a house together and adopted two dogs 🙂 we knew it was a possibility that we would be getting married within a few years and we were sick of renting. Ae got engaged in the livingrooms 6 months after we purchased it 🙂 make sure if you are getting it in both names then you should both realize that is a huge commitment. 

• Sunchick19
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: February 2008

I wouldnt do it.  And I would be cautious of using it a s way to feel comfortable with how committed your so is.  Meaning thatnyu should only buy a house with your SO if you ayou already sure you are on the same page regarding marriage and commitment.  If you aren’t sure about it then jumping in to such a huge purchase together, is In My Humble Opinion, a mistake.

• KJM33
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: July 2013

Bought a house together.  We’re 30 and 31 and have been together five years.  With the market the way it is, I knew it was more important to have the house first.  It just didn’t make sense to blow the money on a ring/wedding when we already know we’ll get married.  We bought in March and will be engaged soon.  It delayed things a little bit, but I’ve waited this long.  A little longer won’t kill me.  

• Alaric2012
• 9 years ago

@Contented_J:  Yes, it’s a long term commitment and i knew we’d be together for life, with  or without marriage. thats important

• desertgirl
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: March 2012

I wanted a house but that was too big of a commitment for my BF so I bought it in my name.  We didn’t get engaged until we were in the house for 4 yrs!!  There were a lot of things that delayed the proposal but the biggest was he just was not ready.  Not sure if the house helped or hindered.  Getting a house is a big commitment!! and a lot of money.  If you think that you will get married for sure then I guess there is no harm but if not then buy it in you name as long as you could afford it on your own.