(Closed) need advice. . . future in laws drama

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 10
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

What does your Fiance think?  Does he want her at the wedding?  If not then he should be the one to talk to her.  If so, then he needs to talk to the rest of his family.  You shouldn’t be dirtying your hands with any of this drama, it’s not even your family!

Post # 3
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8 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Oh wow! Honestly, I would just uninvite her. If it’s making that many people uncomfortable and making so many people not want to attend then I would just talk to her and tell her that your sorry but it would be best if she didn’t attend. Maybe it’s rude but if I were in that situation that’s what I would do.

Post # 4
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

How did she end up on the guest list in the first place? FI’s parents?

As awkward as it will be, I think you should call her and explain that because of the drama, which I’m sure she’s aware of, these other guests are threatening to ruin the wedding for your Fiance. Ask her if she’d be willing to be the bigger person, and suggest maybe they would come to your home for dinner one evening after the wedding.

What a mess.

Post # 5
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786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I agree with the above posters. I would politely apologize and explain why you need to uninvite them and then have them over or take them out for dinner. Hopefully theyll understand. But the day is about you and if your fiance is not going to have any family there and its going to be really sad for him, then maybe its best.

Post # 7
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would uninvite her. She HAS to know how the family feels about her, so she shouldn’t be too surprised. And also, apologize to the rest of the family – I mean, its not like you knew about any of this before she was invited (although, it would have been nice to know!)

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@chellology:

I’m kind of torn on this; from your second post, she sounds like she’s supportive and enthusiastic about the wedding. It hardly seems fair to give her the boot over the people threatening to boycott the wedding and giving their own drama priority.

Ahh. Families. They can never be simple.

Post # 11
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@chellology: I would say to uninvite her because that seems to be the only answer at this point….Sorry you have to go through this

 

Post # 13
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3142 posts
Sugar bee

Posts like this make me want to say that people need to grow the fuck up.

Sorry, just a rant.  This lady made some poor choices and others may not like her but she is not Hitler.  I think refusing to be in the same room with her is childish and ridiculous.

They all love you and your Fiance.  I’m sure it won’t kill them and put their differences aside for one or two events.  Then they can go on their merry way after.

Gesh.

Sorry  your dealing with this silliness OP.

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