- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Mr. C and I have pretty well decided on our venue. Although we’d prefer not to book without seeing it in person first, we’re going to start choosing dates and get first right of refusal and may end up booking without seeing it in person first. It’s less than ideal, but we’ve extensively researched the venue’s reputation including places like travelocity and other travel sites to see how people honestly felt about staying there and events they’ve attended there. And it’s a really good price. We’re pretty well decided to take it.
In the spirit of trying to include my mom, I mentioned it to her to see how she felt. And she was super unhappy. Not about us potentially booking a place without seeing it in person first, but because it’s 40 minutes outside of Ottawa. Mr C and I will be in London, Ontario by then so it will be roughly a 6.5 hour drive from our place to haul our wedding stuff. My mom rattled on and on about that it will be sooooo much work and such a disaster to try it. She said that her first wedding was on the opposite end of the state and that despite having lists and being organized that everyone fought and it was so miserable.
While I do feel that it is going to be more work than if we were having a wedding locally to my current or new home; I know that lots of brides have successful destination weddings that are much further away. So far she’s not responding positively to my pointing out we’ll save several thousand dollars having our wedding at our selected venue and insists that even though her guest list was 200 and mine is going to be 20 or less that I will have the same problems transporting my gown and wedding stuff.
I’d love to have some tips from other brides who had or are having destination weddings on how to bring my mom on board and any advice on how to make things go as smoothly as possible.