Post # 16
And this is exactly why I didn’t bother commenting. New poster + overly dramatic story = 9/10 times a fake where the OP never comes back. So annoying people wasting our time.
Post # 17
it’s only been 18 hours? Maybe she hasn’t posted because she’s hurting and doesn’t realize a response is expected?
I don’t find this overly dramatic.
Post # 18
thank you for advice, this is along the lines of what I was thinking. Not using a PI but getting ready emotionally and practically for a confrontation. We have a house together, big morgoatge and with COVID I have also been worried about the impact this will have. We’re both currently WFH so it’s not going to be easy.
I am still in shock which is why I hadn’t been able to respond to all of you on the helpful comments and messages of support.
Post # 19
I’m so so sorry bee – what a horrible shock. Do you have family or friends you could stay with temporarily?
Post # 20
You have to be careful making these assumptions. I once insinuated a poster was a troll because she had an overly dramatic story and did not seem to be acting like I thought she should, plus she didn’t come back for a bit.
Well right away the problem is the word should. Who the hell am I to tell people what they should be like? I neglected to take into account the fact that people behave differently under stress (very stupid of me), and where I would be angry and upset, others would zone out. And she wasn’t a troll – *I* was the troll for making assumptions and accusations. I apologized and everything was fine, but I learned my lesson.
Post # 21
l know what you mean, but as others have said, there are often reasons. One might be time zones for eg. I’m in Australia, so Northern hemishere posts are many hours distant from mine.
Post # 22
I recommend that you check out survivinginfidelity.com if you haven’t already. For example, they have this advice post about how to prepare for confronting your spouse: https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/archives.asp?tid=472128&AP=1
Post # 23
I’d prepare for a confrontation. If you have joint bank accounts, make sure you take out your fair share and deposit the amount in an account he doesn’t have info for or access to. This is 100% legal and I’ve seen too many women trying to be nice and give the benefit of the doubt and then their SO runs with all the money.
Post # 24
Yep, 100% this. Just in case, get copies of all the latest bank statements and any documentation of any other assets you have. People do crazy things when they are confronted and up against a wall. Document, document, document.
…and also STD check and no sex till you get this sorted (duh).
Post # 26
@JamieFlint: Will you always be in the mood for sex? Nope but some times you just have to let him get off
You can fuck right off with this rapey advice. What the actual fuck? Dont ever tell a woman she should let her husband use her body to “get off” so he doesnt fuck an escort. Like seriously, what is wrong with you?
Post # 28
WTAF?! Troll? OPs husband trying to make excuses?! Disgusting 🤮
Post # 29
Notice this is JamieFlint’s first post…I wouldn’t be surprised if it was OPs husband trolling after looking at her internet history.
Post # 30
ETA, (@JamieFlint) after reading and rereading your post, I have no doubt that you’re OPs husband. If so, I hope she catches on quickly and drops you like the biggest pile of excrement she’s ever needed to lose in her entire life.