(Closed) Need advice: not officially engaged

posted 13 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
Member
14 posts
Newbee

While it’s true that you’ll have to be more flexible about vendors, you’re certainly not too late to book, especially for February — at least, in my limited experience.  I just booked my venue *today* for next February, and in all of my 15 or so calls to venues, only 1 was booked on my preferred day.  This is in NYC on the Sunday of President’s weekend… I was convinced nothing was going to be open, so I was happily surprised! 

Go ahead and start planning – figure out the budget, how much you’ll allocate to each big ticket item, what your style is going to be, etc.  It’s never too early to start trying on gowns!

Post # 18
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50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We had a very similar situation! I did a ton of research early. I knew the ring was coming and had a rough idea of when, and we knew when and where we wanted to be married. Knowing that and understanding that in mid-summer in our region there would be HUGE demand from both local and out of town brides we decided it was appropriate to begin the research process. If people asked to see the ring I always just used the excuse that it was being sized to quickly divert attention and get back to the matter at hand. By the time I officially started wearing the ring a few weeks ago, our venues had been selected and the day after putting on the ring I called up to have our contracts sent out. I am in two weddings this summer so I wanted to be sure our major deposits and contracts were squared away in time for me to spend most of this summer focusing on (a) enjoying being engaged and (b) celebrating for the loved ones in my life getting ready to become a Mrs. to the ones they love.

Bottom line – do what feels right. There is no harm done in researching and starting to put together a list of needs, wants, etc. I found that time period particularly helpful to start determining what my priorities were (location, photography) and were not (expensive dress, limo rentals) so I was able to pull together my budget and have a good idea of what needed to happen and when once the ring was present. In the meantime, congratulations! It is a fun process I am just starting and loving, so best of luck in planning! 

Post # 19
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296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Cannot wait– you haven’t bought wedding magazines?! You are so holding yourself back. Go out with a friend and go to town getting mags! 😛 And while you are at it- procastinate between studying and tag all those pretty pages! You deserve it! (Not that I am speaking from experience at all!)

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