(Closed) Need advice on a friendship or ending it?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

She doesn’t sound very nice.  We all do work differently… I am of the same mindset – quicker is not always better, and I’d rather do it right the first time even if it takes a little longer (sometimes at my last job, I’d have to clean up behind others who went too fast and missed things!).

This is why it can be difficult to mix personal relationships with work.  I know you said you met at work, but I’ve had instances where I’m friendly with someone, but because of work issues, I don’t want to be friends or really do much outside of work because of the work stuff.

I think you need to set boundaries.  Some people can be friends with their coworkers, but it is hurtful if she’s calling you the b-word under her breath.

If I were in your shoes, I’d distance myself as a friend.  SHe doesn’t sound like a very good one. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

Don’t do anything with her outside of work. If she asks you to walk her dog or walk with her, say “No”. If she asks you to do anything that friends or even friendly co-workers would do, say “No”. 

If she asks you to do anything that isn’t work related or isn’t your job, say “No”.  

“No” is good, and oftentimes it’s the only thing that needs to be said. Get used to saying “No” to her. If she keeps asking you to do something after you’ve already declined, stop responding to her; she already knows the answer, she’s just seeing if she can get a different answer out of you by wearing you down. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

She doesn’t sound like a friend. Sorry. 

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