Post # 1
So due to my BM’s being all over the country and several other factors, I am having them pick their own black dress; whatever they feel comfortable in. However, I am having them all wear the same red heels (my colors are red and black) I was just talking to my Maid/Matron of Honor and we thought about maybe her wearing a red dress. I personally like the idea but what color shoes does she wear? I suggested black but she thought it would be too busy. I dont really have an opinion. I’m really set on my Bridesmaid or Best Man wearing black dresses with red heels. Just not sure what to do with the Maid/Matron of Honor. Red dress, black shoes? Or just all of them in black dresses, red heels?
Thanks for any input!
Post # 3
@mexlover: This is just personal preference- but I think a black dress is much more classy and something other girls might already have in their closet, or if not, something they can definitely wear again.
I had a similar issue with one of my bridesmaids. She wanted short dresses, but I wanted long (I think it just looks much more formal in photos). I just told her that she could pick a long dress that she could shorten after the wedding. She still sometimes makes comments (like the other day she goes, “My friend had the same dress I got, but the short verson! It was SO adorable!”) I just passively reply (“Oh cute!”) and then leave it there. Remember, these are the photos you have to look at forever. Pick what you want. I think it’s very considerate of you to allow them to pick any black dress!
Post # 4
Since you are set on having your maids in black dresses with red shoes, if your Maid/Matron of Honor does wear a red dress, I think she also should wear red shoes. Obviously, in this scenario, it would be very important for the red color of her dress to match the red color of the shoes you choose, or vice versa.
Post # 5
@mexlover: Remember it’s your wedding. So in terms of attire, what you say goes. I say Red dress, black shoes is fine, but I also don’t think the Maid/Matron of Honor has to stand out that much. Her in a black dress and red shoes like everyone else should be fine too.
Post # 6
@mexlover: I would do what you want. if you invision all of them in a black dress and red heels then do that. If she wants to stand out do it with the flowers, sash or something else. I personally love the black dresses with red heels but no so much of a fan with the red dress and black heels.
Post # 7
@mexlover: Definitely stick to your gut/vision of the wedding. If you want black dresses and red heels go with that. If you want your maid of honor to be a little different than your bridesmaids, maybe do a black dress, red heels and add a red belt to the dress? I guess it depends.
I have 4 ladies in my wedding party that live in town and 2 that live out of town. The store I went to will order all the dresses once my girls submit their measurements and money and than will send the 2 out of town girls dresses to their nearest location of their stores. I decided that everyones gonna look the same because each and every girl means something to me and I have 3 maid of honors because I’ve stood as theirs in all 3 weddings. (I don’t like picking just 1 person…might have felt different if I were extremely close to 1 and close with the others). I decided that everyone will look the same for picture purposes. I have to look at them and keep them for the rest of my life so go with what you as the brides visions. Hope this helps 🙂
Post # 8
My preference would be all black dresses with red shoes. A red dress might get too busy? If your Maid/Matron of Honor wants to stand out, maybe a sparkly sash? DB has a lot of great black Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses with coordinating sashes to give her an extra “pop”