Need advice on decorating living room

posted 2 years ago in Home
Post # 2
1023 posts
Bumble bee

I hate the paint colour on that wall and blue is my favourite colour. Shudder. Just no.

Learn from this experience.

Asking for help or an opinion doesn’t mean you are giving up the reins to your own life. It sounds like she decorated your home to her taste, and now that you have rejected the decorations, in her mind you have rejected her.

Talking to her one on one will hopefully smooth things over.  (I mean both of you talk to her, as both of you decide what you keep and toss. The two of you have a chat with her.)

It’s your home. Research and plan and dream.

Decorate the way the two of you want to decorate.

Post # 3
381 posts
Helper bee

I would suggest resolving this so it isn’t a bigger issue than it needs to be.

Your style isn’t the same as hers and that’s totally fine! I would tell her that you appreciate all the help she has done, but her style isn’t aligned with your own.

I would also try to include her in the future! Not on everything but maybe small things – ask her opinion between two or three things, don’t give her full power in choices but if you have narrowed down a selection of things, maybe ask what she thinks would look nice.

But like the PP said, it’s your home. Decorate it how you TWO want. I think including her in some of the selections might be nice, but it’s not exactly necessary if you think she’ll just try to overthrow your decisions.

You can’t blame her fully though. You did allow her to help decorate your home, and you didn’t really help her do it you kind of just let her do it, so try not to be too hard on her. She was only trying to help.

Post # 4
47458 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m glad you finally spoke up. I’m sure you can smooth things over with her. Just tell her that you love her style, but that it’s her, not you.

I find pics of rooms I love online, then do my best to duplicate the look and feel with he things I own, or can buy.

The problem with this room right now, is that it is a hodge podge of styles. Nothing is cohesive. The mirrors on the all are modern quatrefoli and the coffee table is country rustic.

The area rug is way too small. An area rug’s purpose, besides being comfortable underfoot, is to tie the elements of the room together. At least the front feet of all the furniture pieces should be on the rug. It might work in your dining room.

I would paint over the blue paint with your original wall color. Instead I would paint the wall with the tv and fireplace a light grey and paint the fireplace and the wall above it a darker grey so the TV isn’t the focal point of the room and looking like a large black box. I would also paint the brass of the fireplace screen with a heatproof pewter color paint.

Bring back the ottoman/coffee table you had before and also bring the chairs in from the corners of the room. Place one chair at each end of the ottoman/coffee table to make a conversation area. Right now, people are sitting too far apart for comfortable conversation.

When you get that far, take a breather. Live with your room and see how it works for you and then move on to finding a new area rug and some art.


Post # 6
2845 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

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planningwife311 :  I actually dont mind the shade of blue but I am really not a fan of painted accent walls. I just think they are very 2007 and on the out. You obviously dont have to listen to any of my suggestions but here is what I would do with that room:

1) I would paint the whole room a modern neutral of your choosing. This graphic is a great starting point. 

2) The fireplace is very 1980, you can easily update th whole thing by painting over the brass with an oil rubbed bronze or black heat resistant paint. 

3) I’m really not a fan of the built in bookshelf as is. I would add trim adound the whole thing to make it look like more of a custom built in. I would then find some interesting books, bookends, and fun decor elements to “style” it. How you decorate it should be pretty dependent on your own personal style. 

4) Get rid of the rug (or use it elsewhere in the house) and replace it with a larger one. 

5) Invest in a quality living room set. Furniture doesn’t necessarily have to match but it needs to coordinate and be cohesive. I think this space would look great with a charcoal Chesterfield sofa and a fun accent chair with a pattern of your choosing. I would also opt for a different coffee table or paint that one white. 

6) Buy some pretty throw pillows, fun lamps (maybe mercury glass), and long curtains to match your new furniture. Curtain rods should be placed just under the ceiling and curtains should extend all the way to the floor. 

7) Mount the TV and frame it if possible. Right now it is taking up valuable mantle space. 

8) I’m assuming you have children based on the dollhouse in one of the photos. A large B&W engineer print would look great on the wall that is between the door and the bookshelf. 


Post # 7
764 posts
Busy bee


Just do what you want in the coming months and tell her that you are just switching it up with the season. You wanted a more warm, or cool or whatever look.

She will get over it. If not now then when you guys have kids. Lol! laughing

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