(Closed) Need Advice on FMIL and Pastor

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

There is probably going to be far better advice but your Mother-In-Law is helping out by paying so she does get some say. However, having a different religious view is a toughy. I would maybe have the Pastor do a blessing at the end or maybe during the reception, say, before the meal?

I would be offended if it were my Mother-In-Law, but I wouldn’t say anything either because it is a battle I would chose to stay away from.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I have been to many Christian weddings in which a pastor “blesses” the couple before the ceremony ends. It is very close to the end of the ceremony. They just come up and say a prayer. Plain and simple. It wouldn’t hurt, to honor him and your Future Mother-In-Law by respecting her wish (very simple wish!)

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t be offended – you could ask him to say a blessing before the meal at the reception if he’s okay with that or a short prayer right after your vows or ring exchange.

Just discuss with him what will be said ahead of time – we had a secular ceremony and invited a family friend to say the blessing before the meal… he mentioned something about the holiness of marriage between a man and a woman, etc., etc. and I cringed – Darling Husband and I are both supporters of marriage equality.

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