Post # 1
I’m having problems with one of my bridesmaids, or rather my other bridesmaids are. I posted about some of it a few days ago, so I’ll just summarize it. One of the girls asked to bring a friend to the wedding, and we said okay. For some reason, she brought this girl to the dress fitting and she (bridesmaids friend) ended up cursing in front of my 6-year old niece. My Maid/Matron of Honor asked her to not talk that way in front of the child, and her response was “I don’t care, not my kid”. I brought it up with her since she will be at the wedding, along with my toddler and about 15-20 kids. I told her if thats going to be the behavior, she’s not welcome at the wedding. She said she would talk to her. She did try to justify it saying she was being sarcastic.
My other Bridesmaid or Best Man (sister) and Maid/Matron of Honor met last night to plan the bridal shower. They did not invite the other girl which resulted in her throwing a fit about it. It comes out that my sister had asked this friend to help with my baby shower and she was told no, and then the friend wouldn’t even help my other 2 friends with it. Both girls are really mad that she said that to my sister AND then wouldn’t do anything. And from what they’ve said, she was trying to leave out my sister purposely.
Everyone is really upset about both of these situations, and I feel like I’m in the middle of it. Why can’t everyone just get along?
Post # 3
I’m sorry 🙁 It feels like whenever you have a group of girls together there will always be something going on within then. I feel like it was extremely rude to respond that it wasn’t her kid so she didn’t care how she was talking. As far as your Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man not inviting the other girl…are we talking about the Bridesmaid or Best Man whose friend was the one cussing?
Post # 4
Yes, it was the same Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 5
When kids are fighting, the grown-ups need to step in and straighten them out. That’s exactly what’s happening here. You need to straighten out your Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Sarcasm isn’t justification for cussing in front of kids. That’s ridiculous. If this guest’s behaviour is out of line, your friend needs to know in no uncertain circumstances that she will be asked to leave. Your friend is responsible for her guest, so it reflects badly on her if she brings someone who can’t behave decently.
As for the rest of the nonsense, it frankly sounds like cattiness and immaturity. Let them know that they need to knock it off.
And your Bridesmaid or Best Man should not be bringing random people to bridal appointments, btw. That makes no sense.
Post # 6
@JacobsMama: Ask the bridesmaid if she really wants to be a bridesmaid in your wedding or not, because her actions are speaking louder than words. Tell her if she does she needs to shape up, or ship out. Simple.
Post # 7
@krayzay87: Totally agree with this advice. You don’t need someone there who isn’t in it for you 100%.
Post # 8
I did tell the friend is no uncertain terms that if her guest can’t agree to behave correctly, she wouldn’t be allowed to attend the wedding. Honestly, I’m not sure if she understands that she won’t be with her friend the whole time. This person will not be sitting at the head table with us.
And I agree completely. It didn’t make any sense for her to bring someone to the dress fitting.