Post # 1
I love my engagement ring. I really do. It’s beautiful, it’s me, and my Fiance picked it out all by himself. The problem with this is that he’s colorblind, and has no idea, but every now and then, you can see the faint yellow tint in it. It’s not just me, either. In fact, the day we got engaged, I was asked if it was a yellow diamond (super embarassing). And a few weeks ago, it happened again. I know that two times is not a lot, considering I’ve had it for 8 months now, but those 2 times have really hurt.
Although I love my ring, I would be perfectly fine with exchanging my center stone for a 1 ct (my diamond is .5) moissanite that has a high clarity rating. The problem however is that Fiance is extremely proud of the fact that it’s real, and that he bought it from saving his money without a real job, as a college student.
Should I ask to switch? If so, how?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t ask for a new center stone seeing that he is really proud of the stone he picked for you! There’s no picture, but there is nothing wrong with a warmer toned diamond.
Post # 4
I think this may hurt your fiance’s feelings. But ultimately, you are the one that knows him and can tell how he could react. In any case, I would recommend not to tell him that you are embarassed by people asking you if it is a yellow diamond.. it won’t make him feel really proud.
Also, you want to make sure you CAN switch. After 8 months, I don’t know if the store where the ring was bought will be willing to take your ring back to switch to a moissanite, provided they even carry moissanite.
Or, if you are planning on selling your diamond to buy a moissanite, keep in mind that you probably won’t be able to sell it for as much as your Fiance spent for it, which can be a bummer if he put a lot of effort into saving the $$ to buy it for you.
Post # 5
You guys are probably right. I think I just get caught up in seeing all the other bee’s 1+ cts and feel subpar.
Post # 6
this may not be the most popular opinion but here goes…
its your ring.. you’re wearing it on your finger, you have to look at it. i’m sure your Fiance wouldn’t want you to be disappointed. if you do it delicately i think you should be honest. i would be mortified if someone asked me if my diamond was a yellow diamond.
you should have something that you love and that you’re both proud of. not something that hes proud of because of the monetary value.
and then you say he’s proud that “it’s real” a moissy is real too. it may not be a diamond but who cares? it doesn’t make it any less ‘real’ of a stone. we’re all just wearing pretty stones around 😉
Post # 7
Hang on to the diamond. It was mined from your fiancé heart. How about not trying to fight the yellow in the stone and maybe look at other settings that will show the colour better. What colour gold is it in? Yellow gold is classic and timeless. Rose gold is warm and soft and may show the stone better. How about a halo of chocolate diamonds?
Allow him to be proud off what he has achieved as it sounds like he performed a minor miracle to get it for you. Take some time and play around with how you can wear the diamond with pride.
Post # 8
@frommisstomrs.: Here’s where I stand on this one…. I completely understand “ring envy”. There will always be other girls with bigger/sparklier/whatever rings out there. What matters is the meaning behind it and the effort he put in to getting it for you. He bought it for you because he knew it was IMPORTANT to you.
My ring is about 1/4 ct princess solitare. I’ve had days where I wished it was bigger or more unique or something. In fact, my fiance even asked me once if I wanted to switch it for a bigger ring. My gut reaction? Was no. I loved the one I have because he gave it to me. Would a bigger ring be nice? Sure, who doesn’t like sparkly things? Would a bigger TV be nice? Sure, but it’s not neccessary.
I say, “Love the one you’re with”