(Closed) Need advice on smoky neighbors ASAP

posted 8 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

ask them nicely. say dh has asthma and smoke is a big irritant. stay polite, and they probably won’t have any problem going somewhere else to smoke.

i would definitely go to them before the landlord. if no smoking is in your lease, he could evict them. personally, i wouldn’t want to feel responsible for ruining someone’s credit without trying to talk to them first. you should also get an air purifier.

i know that when i was a smoker, i appreciated people asking me to move considerately. when people were immediately snarky, i was less inclined to move away from them. passive aggressive, i know, but it’s the truth. a little politeness goes a long way!

Post # 4
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would approach the neighbours first. Just politely explain that your Darling Husband has asthma and is really sensitive to cigarette smoke and if they don’t mind smoking further away from the porch.

If they don’t comply then I would talk to the landlord!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Can you tell if they are smoking in the house? If they are only smoking outside then it might be hard to get anything done about it. I am thinking the smoke free home may not include the porch.

In any case, I would start off friendly. Maybe you and you husband can go over and introduce yourselves. In the conversation maybe you can mention that your husband has asthma and it would be helpful if they didn’t smoke in a certain spot.

I will say this, if you live in a cold climate (PA right?) they may not be real willing to smoke away from the porch in the middle of the winter. I would contact your landlord only if it seems like things are getting messy. I would not want to be on bad terms with the neighbors.

Good luck!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I dont think it would hurt to politely ask them. At the same time you have to be prepared for them to answer with, “its our porch too” and not want to adjust just because you asked. I know in our lease the apartment is non-smoking with the exception of the porch, is this the same for you?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@lindseyrose: I understand why you are frustrated, but I would approach the situation with kindness first. They may be fine with not smoking on the porch, but you will have to ask to know. πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree, go the nice route.  As an ex-smoker, if a neighbor had come to me all self-righteous about it I’d probably blow her off.  If she came to me very nicely, however, and had a legitimate complaint (husband’s asthma) vs. just not liking the smell (there really aren’t any health risks to you from your neighbor smoking outside), then I would go out of my way to accomodate.

Doing stuff like putting a heater out there so they can’t smoke or contacting your landlord is kind of crappy, though.  They’re not doing anything illegal or even impolite: they’re merely smoking outside of their own home.  Dealing with the smell of smoke may end up being one of the many inconviences living in a converted house brings (I know, I used to live in one.)

Edited to add: I must have missed your last post.  Good for you!  Pretty hard to turn down cookies, something tells me you’ll do fine. πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Smoke/Smells is just like a noise violation. 

I would think that the home owners would want to know they are smoking on the porch.  All of our leases have always said no smoking on the property.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@caszos:  Really?  So if you had tenants renting out a house, you wouldn’t allow them to smoke in the backyard, using an ashtray?  That seems a bit unreasonable to me. 

And smoking a cigarette outside your home is a lot different than blaring your stereo all night. (I’m assuming it’s outside, because smoking inside is just…ew.)  You can’t even equate the two. 

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Agree with PPs that the best route is probably to ask nicely that they smoke further away from the house on account of your husband’s asthma.

Just to be safe, though, I would read your lease or inquire in a general way with your landlord about the status of the porch.  It may be that s/he doesn’t want tenants smoking there either, in which case s/he will take care of the problem for you, presumably.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@lezlers: That is actually law in florida.  If you have a bonfire that is flooding a neighbors yard with smoke you can call the police just like with a noise complaint.  Its actually a form of trespassing.  

I was saying a house that I was a renter had a lease that said no smoking on the property.    

 

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