(Closed) Need advice on the guest list!

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think you’re taking a big risk in assuming that 35 people will not be able to make it.  I personally would trim it down, but Fiance and I are cautious worriers. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

For me, I went through my list and kind of figured out who I KNEW would come, who I thought MIGHT come, and who I really didn’t think would come. It gave me a better idea. Of course people might surprise you, but I think it’s fairly accurate especially since you know your guest list better then anyone. 

Im inviting 145 and nt expecting anymore then 132. A lot of those are +1’s and I know certain people won’t bring +1’s.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I have a friend whose Dirty Delete invited 200 people to her wedding.  198 attended.  One of my DD’s was married in the dead of Michigan Winter.  96% attendance rate.

When our last Dirty Delete got married every vendor we had told us to plan on 70% attendance, but I am all about planning and budgeting for 100% attendance.  You never know when the family decides to have a reunion of sorts on your dime.  That particular Dirty Delete had a 68% attendance rate.

If I had planned for 70% with my first Dirty Delete we would have been screwed!

As pp, I, too, am a cautious worrier and prepare for things outside the average.  Yes, I know the majority of people don’t have 96% or 99% attendance, but after Dirty Delete #1’s wedding, I plan for 100%

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Standard safe assumption is 20% declines. So the max you should invite is 150. But, if there are specific people you think won’t be able to make it, feel them out before you send out the invites.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You should always plan on 100% attendence.   So I think you should try and cut your guest list down.

However, I’m wondering how many of those 160 are +1’s for single guests.  What you could do is not invite those +1’s until you get some RSVP Nos and then extend the +1’s accordingly.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We only have a 2% decline rate right now, so don’t count on 10%. I would cut your list.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would think your safe number could be 135.  It’s not worth potentially going over budget.  Those who aren’t invited will live with it.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We put probabilities for each guest on our spreadsheet to figure out the expected value for attendance. Some people we know were 100% coming, others were maybe 50% likely or some even just 10% likely. No idea yet if our EV will be accurate. (yes, it’s sort of nerdy, but we’re both engineers)

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We had about 12-15% decline. Way less than I thought. I initially invited 100 and as we got declines we sent out more invites. I hate to refer to it as an A or B list but that is what it is. Just give yourself plenty of time to do that. I’m a little over a month away and I am sending out my last invite “B list” invite. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would cut your list and do a “B” list so you can send out a second wave of invitations. We only have a budget for 75 guests…there are 76 people on our invite list. There are a few people I am ALMOST certain cannot make it, but until I get the def. no I’m not sending out my B list people! I just think you nevr know what  can happen, say you end up with 96% attendance like PPs friend!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I always plan on 100% as well. I don’t like leaving things up to chance. I would cut the list and maybe send invites out in rounds. Like an A list, B list, etc. That way, if you get some declines, you can send an invite to someone on the B list.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@lenaglong:  I agree always plan on 100% unless some of the invites are people that just can’t come at all (in the military over seas, or something like that)

 

 

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