(Closed) Need advice on this one

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
Member
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Is it possible that he charged everything to his card for convenience, and the other guys gave him cash to cover the charges?  Hopefully…

Post # 5
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wouldn’t flip out until you talk to him. Chances are he put two or three rooms on his card and the guys paid him. But don’t freak out yet–there’s probably a 100% valid, logical reason for this

Post # 7
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5787 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Odds are he put the bill on his card and the guys gave him cash for their portion of the bill. I do that all the time when I go out with a large group of people.

Post # 8
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just typed a long response and it never posted, but in short, please give him the benefit of the doubt. Don’t fly off the handle before you ahve the story. Perhaps one of the guys forgot his credit card and they needed one to hold the room. It might not even be a charge, just a hold? Or maybe it’s somethiing else…but ask before you get pissed, of he is going to not want to tell you things in the future!

I don’t think it is stalking since you pay the bills, though, and he knows that. I would just let hiim know you were paying and that you are concerned that there is a big charge on the card. After all, you SHOULD let him know, in case someone has his number and is using it!

Post # 9
Member
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

If I had to guess they gave him the cash, and he put it all on his card instead of splitting the bill.  I would probably try to give him the benefit of the doubt until you find out what happened.

Post # 10
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh, I see you got the charges from the cc company. Well, I agree that maybe others gave him cash and he used one card to pay the bill.

No matter what happened, I would give him a chance to tell you about it  before you get angry.

Post # 13
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would wait until he gets home.  There isn’t anything productive that can be done over the phone, and you will probably yell at him and make things worse.  Give yourself a chance to calm down and talk to him when he gets home rationally to see what his explanation is.

Post # 15
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

There isn’t much you can do now except tell him that it is not okay for him to do that in the future and that he needs to come up with the money to pay it off on the credit card.

Post # 16
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202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

He probably got a little carried away, and bought a few rounds of drinks or covered it like you think. He may even have some of the cash on him from the guys. Maybe it’s me, but I don’t think it’s too much of a big deal, since you were expecting the hotel charge.

But I would wait till he gets home or text him..

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