(Closed) Need advice or someone to tell me I’m not being crazy! Haha.

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1086 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You’re not being crazy! I would be freaking out as well if I were in your shoes. My SO told me last week the proposal will be coming “sooner than you think” and I’ve been on edge every day since. It makes things a little more intense but instead of letting it consume you, enjoy it. Enjoy the wait. Remind him while you wait, why he wants to be with you. In order to keep myself calm I’ve been trying to reinvent myself and go back to the girl I was when he and I met, and it’s just making him more anxious to ask the question.


I was just on Davidsbridal looking for that perfect dress and I haven’t even heard the question yet so my opinion may not be the most reliable haha.


I spend about 80% of our time together thinking about details. Thinking about when he’s going to ask me. Wanting to tell him all of the details I have planned. But I wont say anything, don’t want him to freak out. I think it’s normal for girls to dream and obsess over a wedding when they meet the man who they think will make the event perfect. I’ve never wanted a wedding until him.


Just hang in there. Keep the boiling emotions to a minimum until you get that ring… Once that ring is on your finger you don’t have to hold back anymore ๐Ÿ™‚ Well if you’re as nuts about it as I am you still may need to hold back a little lol

Post # 5
823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would have freaked out after seeing that card too! Do you think he officially bought that ring or do you think he was just looking? You can chill out by (like Mr. Bee says) staying busy! Start some new craft projects, call your girlfriends and meet them for lunch or dinner or after work drinks. Start trying out new recipes or try some new classes at the gym! You got this!! 

Post # 6
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m having the same kind of problem. My ring is already in my house so now I’m just waiting for him to propose. Every time we do something together, I think “this is it!” then it isn’t. Just keep reminding yourself that he probably has something brilliant and romantic planned out so it will be worth the wait (that’s what I’m trying to do, but it’s hard!) In the meantime, stay busy. Go to the gym, pick up a new hobby, take a class somewhere. Anything to keep your mind off of the impending proposal! 

Post # 7
808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Not crazy at all!  How exciting that he’s got this in the works! We’ve picked my ring out, I know its coming in a few months and I’m still crazy.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
1034 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@lucyv2003:  I may not be able to give stellar advice, because I’m freaking out waiting too, but I can tell you you’re not crazy, and you’re not the only one. And as much as I love this site, I think it’s contributing to my craziness because it helps me to constantly think about getting engaged. My SO has already purchased the ring and talked to my parents; my parents and his 2 closest friends also know where and when he’s proposing. It’s killing me. But just take comfort in the fact that you’ve found the person you want to be with forever, and waiting for that question is certainly not the worst thing in the world. We’ll be so busy planning once the rings are on our fingers that we’ll barely have time to sit down and really enjoy it, so try to enjoy it a little bit now! Best of luck, can’t wait to read your engagement story!!

Post # 12
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Breathe deep because when he finally pops the question, you won’t even remember

this time. My Fiance bought the ring last Wednesday (I know cuz I was there) and left it to be sized. Thus began the most anxiety producing 8 days I’ve had in a while. And just when I’d decided to forget about it BOOM! There he was down on one knee. Random day, random time, no clues ( because I wasn’t looking for them). And now I think “wait? What wait?” trust me. Future you will appreciate your clear headedness during this time. <3

Post # 13
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Haha if you’re crazy, so am I, because I would be doing the exact same thing!  I’m waiting on a proposal as well, SO’s self-imposed timeline is up this month!  We’re going on vacation next month for SO’s birthday and I have a feeling it might be coming while we’re in Mexico.  I’m totally imagining how he might ask me on the beach, or while snorkeling, or after swimming with dolphins, or at dinner….my imagination is running wild!  I’m trying not to let SO know how nuts I am going over everything.  The Bee REALLY helps by providing a place to vent.  

That said, we should both just try to enjoy the suspense, because its going to happen when we least expect it and it will be perfect.  Sending you positive thoughts! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
147 posts
Blushing bee


But men make us that way when they start, oh how do I say it nicely, dragging their feet! 

You may be crazy but you’re not alone! ๐Ÿ™‚ 



Post # 15
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Not crazy at all, I think all us waiting bees can say we experience the same feelings. My SO has the ring, and has had it for awhile. He has a date in mind and grande plan, so I’m letting him have his moment and not talk about it, as hard as it is. I always think “this would be such a perfect time for him to ask”. I get a little down when it doesn’t happen, but I know all he wants to do is make me happy and the moment will be worth all the waiting. It’s a gorgeous ring by the way! I hope you get your proposal soon!

Post # 16
2 posts

Girl if you’re crazy, so am I. Me & my SO have been together for seven years and he’s pretty much forbidden me from bringing up getting married anymore because we just fight. He says, “Every time you bring it up, it’s less likely to happen soon. If I proposed to you tomorrow it wouldn’t be romantic, because you’d be expecting it and I’d feel pressured into it.” 

So there’s that. I don’t talk about it at all anymore, and honestly I’m getting pissed off. We both have good jobs, we’re living independently, we don’t have any debt. He’s done a couple things lately that have sparked some hope in me but I’m probably just reading too much into it. I was reading US Weekly and he asked me what I thought of Natalie Portman’s engagement ring, and also a while ago I was cleaning up and I found a few diamond rings drawn on a piece of scrap paper.

Its so insanely frustrating. 

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