(Closed) Need advice picking the godparents please!

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If I were you, I would let your husbands sister be the godmother, and your brother that you are close to be the godfather. This way, you each got to choose someone. If you soley get to choose the 2 people you want, he will be hurt. If he solely gets to choose the 2 people he wants, you will be hurt. But this way, even though it may not be eachother’s exact choice, you still each got to choose one of your choices. It sound like some people might still have hurt feelings, but not EVERYONE can be the godparent. They still get to be aunts and uncles, and they should love the child (and the child will love them) just the same with or without the title of godparent. Hope it all works out!

Post # 4
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

What religion are you? Are there any requirements for god parents? Maybe that would help you narrow it down.

I personally would never pick a brother and his girlfriend. What if they break up? Then the baby wont have a god mother.

If I were you I’d pick the people who you would want to take care of your child if anything happens to you. Also, who do you think is a good role model to help bring up the child in your religion?

You don’t have to pick a “couple”. You could pick his sister and one of your brothers.

Post # 6
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I have 2 godmothers (baptized Catholic).  I’m not sure if that info helps or hurts your decision. 

Post # 7
1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with PP that your brother and his sister would be a good compromise.  

If it helps any, we were also told that any married godparent must be in a valid (according to the Church) marriage.  So if there is one person you don’t want to include and he or she is Catholic and married outside the Church, that might be an “out” for you.

Post # 8
2889 posts
Sugar bee

I agree on your brother and his sister. Speaking from experience as the first child I have my mother’s sister and my dad’s best friend as god parents. My brother has my mom’s other sister and my dad’s younger brother. I think my parents got lazy on my second brother and his are my mom’s sister (same as bro 1) and her now ex-husband which essentially means he does not have a godfather and it really upset my mom’s brother that she didn’t ask him. So, I would have to say don’t pick the girlfriend over family, you never know where they will be when your child is growing up.

Also, if you really can’t decide there is maybe a possibility to have 4 as my Darling Husband is one of 4 godparents on a good friend’s child so I guess it depends on the priest on that one.

Post # 9
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@New Momma2B: I think you should ask your priest what the exact rules are for godparents, because some churches handle it differently. My priest told me that one godparent has to be practicing Catholic (in good standing with the church, i.e. is currently an active parishoner). The other godparent has to be baptised Christian. I know some churches are more lenient on the practicing Catholic rule than others, so maybe it’s not an issue for you, but it would be for us. Then you could use the church’s rules as a reason for not being able to pick certain people, so they wont just blame you if they get mad about not being a godparent.

Post # 10
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I agree with the others, your brother and his sister would probably be the easiest way to go. That way there’s one person from each family.

We kind of have the same issue, I’m close to all my siblings (brother and his wife and my sister) and my husband has one brother. So to be fair, it will be his brother and my sister.

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