Post # 1
I am a regular here on WB but just couldnt bring myself to talk about this under my original name.i am a coward i know
but, to get to the point…
besides a couple times and i mean just a couple, i really dont orgasm during sex. and through research and what not i have found that this isnt all that uncommon. FH wants me to of course but i just assure him that i have always been that way and dont mind him finishing and me not. I have however orgasmed twice with him but didnt tell him (the situation allowed me to hide it).
But my situation is this..i feel awkward. like embarassed to show any kind of orgasming pleasure. and i dont know why this is and i just cant get over it! im not afraid to tell him when its feeling good or when i like what he’s doing.
and i am completely comfortable with FH and i love him with everythign i have so i dont know why it is i feel embarassed. he has no problem showing his pleasure from it…
WHAT DO I DO?
please help me =)
Post # 3
Have you ever orgasmed by yourself? Maybe if you get used to feeling those things on your own, it will be easier to show them to your FH. If you become more comfortable with yourself, you will realize that it is completely normal and healthy to show him when you are feeling pleasure. I’m sure that he wants to please you too!
Post # 4
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: i have by myself, yes. and it’s also much easier for me to please myself. which brings me to the fact of reading people say “show him what you like” but again i just feel awkward saying “ya i do this to myself and it feels good”
i know he definitely wants to please me and usually doesn’t give up until i make him give up
Post # 5
@embarassedOne: My concern here is that there is a deeper issue at hand. You said that you are embarassed how you look/act when orgasming? Are you able to enjoy sex without being preoccupied with these worries? I’d bet that the times you have orgasmed with your Fiance you weren’t thinking about these things and were truly engulfed in the moment.
I would have an honest conversation with your Fiance about how you are feeling. Perhaps speaking with him about it will lighten some of the worry you have. If this doesn’t help, maybe you should seek out some professional help to deal with the issues you are having.
You’re Fiance obviously loves you deeply. I’m sure talking to him about this and getting it off your chest will help you a lot. Next time you are intimate try limiting some of the visual senses by turning the lights off, blindfolding your partner, etc, sometimes the removal of certain senses will make the others hyper sensative. Try to concentrate on how things feel instead of what you look like. And remember that your Fiance loves you and just wants you to feel as comfortable as possible. Nothing would please him more than to see you in ectasy.
I hope this helps
Post # 6
Why wouldn’t you want to show him how happy he makes you? Is it so he won’t notice when it doesn’t happen?
Post # 7
@embarassedOne:I wouldn’t feel comfortable telling him what to do either, firstly I’d suggest a little bit of alcohol secondly, maybe instead of having to ‘tell’ him if you make maybe a slight noise or dig your fingers in his shoulders maybe he’ll get the message of what feels good and what doesn’t…?