Post # 1
I accidentally received an email that I wasn’t supposed to……surprise plans for my 30th birthday next month at a vineyard. Do I let him know that I know, or go along with it. I don’t know if I’ll be able to fake it for a whole month and act surprised on the day of.
An emergency phone call to my parents…..they said I should tell him that I know. What do you all think?
Post # 4
I’d tell him.
I hate knowing secrets, so if you’re anything like me you’d be really dissapointed you know!!!
Post # 5
Thanks for the advice so far…I have to decide quick! Trying to figure out the best course of action…
Post # 6
Go along with it, let him think he is planning a wonderful surprise and don’t ruin it for him. Tell him after the fact.
Post # 8
@Martinigirl: That is what I do too, Darling Husband is so bad at suprises.
Post # 9
I’d tell him – mostly because I know if the shoe was on the other foot, I’d be bummed Darling Husband didn’t let on to me that he knew – meanwhile, all month long, I’d been acting covertly, etc – it would make me feel like an idiot if he ever found out.
OR – if you are good at keeping secrets and will NEVER let on (to anyone!) that you knew – I’d go along with it and fake it.
It’s kind of up to what your personality is like… 🙂 Sorry – not much help, but hopefully will give you some things to weigh.
Post # 10
Can you pull off acting “surprised?” If so, don’t tell him.
But if you can’t and you might end up telling him anyway, even after-the-fact, I’d tell him now.
Post # 11
@oracle: I agree that if I was so proud of myself for being sneaky for a month, I’d feel really bad later when I found out he’d known all along.
Post # 11
Don’t tell if you are a pokerface and can act all surprised! ^_^
Post # 12
Thanks ladies! Guess what….he’s home early! Knot in my stomach! I think I’ll just see how it plays out. THANK YOU for all of your suggestions! Will let you know what happened 🙂
Post # 13
I agree…don’t ruin the surprise for him!! Let him have fun with the planning. You’ll still be surprised a month from now…just tell yourself that you never saw it! I dont know that you should even tell him after the fact because then it’ll be like “Ha! I knew the whole time!” and that’s not nice. Maybe tell him years later…