(Closed) need advice right now! please

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Write back with, “Who is this?”  Do not tell him it is your number; lie and say your name is something else.  

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d ignore him, and I’d mention it to Fiance.  There’s no reason to hide it.  

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldn’t respond at all. If you don’t engage him, he’ll get the message.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would ignore it or go peachacids route.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

If I were you I would ignore all contact with this man. 8 years or not, he was abusive to you, he might react very badly to the fact you are getting married and this can cause more drama to the situation already since your Fiance wants to “set him straight”. Ignoring him all through is the best way to go and leave it at that! 

Stay away from this guy and focus on what’s here and now. I wouldn’t want to see my Fiance in trouble because of an abusive ex. ETA: I also would tell my Fiance, so he doesn’t think you’ve been hiding this if he finds out.

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m a mean person- I’d tell him to go f*!k himself… cuz that’s the only f*!king that would be happnening. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@GroovyHippieChick:  +1 

My ex-boyfriend texted me several months after my now Fiance and I started dating. He said that he had a dream about me in a car accident and that I died. I wanted to reply back and tell him I was alright but that we could no longer have contact. I brought it up to my Fiance and he told me this: 

You’ll be sending him mixed messages by texting him back. You’ll also be opening the line of communication. He is a guy and we’ll take any oppurunity that comes up.” 

So I would suggest to ignore him, he doesn’t need any explaination, he doesn’t need to know you’re engaged, he doesn’t need your texts. As far as you’re concerned he isn’t worth a text and leave it at that. 

He’s fine, he’ll find some other girl to have a “no strings attached” affair with.

Post # 13
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Honey bee

just ignore it. nothing good can come from responding

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

First I would text him to leave you alone, and only once then don’t text him again…. this may make him send you more texts, so keep them all, and file for a restraining order when you have enough “evidence” of harrassment. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh wow, my ex tried doing the same thing to me early on in my relationship with my now Fiance. And my ex was in a relationshipwith someone else himself! Some guys are just dogs, plain and simple.

I would totally go the route that @peachacid:  suggested. 

I would definitely let your Fiance know that your ex propositioned you, you have no reason to hide it from him, but if you do hide it from him it will look very bad.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would ignore it.  In fact, been there, and I have ignored it. 

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