- 8 years ago
I need some advice. I just finished my first year of law school. My fiance is in the Air Force, stationed in Okinawa. We are getting married in just a few short weeks–August 14. We have been long-distance for a year, and while it has been difficult, we’ve coped pretty well. But last weekend I traveled to visit my sisters, who are both engaged, and I left feeling so, so sad. Just seeing them living WITH their fiances, setting up their homes, while the only contact I have with my Bryan is on the phone and through Skype, left me feeling devastated. I have 2 years left of law school, but something just came into me and told me that I should take a leave of absence from law school and move to Okinawa to be with Bryan.
If I move to Okinawa, we have less than 1 year left in Japan before we would PCS. Then Bryan will most likely be sent somewhere in the U.S. He has 5 years until retirement, and has promised me that we would move straight to Boston (where I go to law school) as soon as he retires so that I can finish law school. I am so torn between just sucking it up for 2 more years apart, or actually living with my beautiful husband. I know I CAN do the long distance, but I am just so sad without the physical presence of my husband.
Some other random details:
-I go to a a really, really good law school. So transferring to another law school closer to him after he PCS’s back stateside is not an option.
-We want to start a family. If I take time off from law school, we would start right away, in all likelihood. If I don’t take time off, it will be 2 years until I can be with my husband and we can start trying for a family.
-I am also worried that Bryan has no support system in Okinawa. He has dealt with this separation amazingly well, but the truth is that he is lonely and doesn’t know very many people there. He is an officer, so he can’t really hang out with his troops as friends too often. He has a daughter who is 5 and lives in the U.S. with her mother, and he only gets to see her twice a year as well. So being apart from his daughter AND his wife is really taking a toll on him.
Military wives: only you can help me. I am scared to let down my family, who is so proud of me for going to such an amazing law school. But I just want a normal life with my beautiful husband. Yes I do want to be a lawyer, but is it worth sacrificing this much?