- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Ok, this is a somewhat sticky situation that I don’t know how to handle, and my mom isn’t helping.
I come from a huge family- both parents have 4 siblings, and each sibling has multiple children, who in turn also have multiple children. If I invited all of my cousins, it would add over 60 extra people.
I am also don’t know most of them- I couldn’t pick 50% of them out of a crowd.
So, my parents and I agreed that we would limit our side to my siblings/their spouses/nieces and nephews (that’s 20 people alone), and aunts and uncles.
However, one of my adult cousins (she’s in her 30’s) lives with my aunt. She has 2 children. My mom feels like not inviting her would offend her, especially because she is closer to our family.
But if I invite her, then I have to invite her 2 sisters. They also each have children.
Just by adding these 3 cousins, it adds an additional 15 people to the list.
To make things worse, some of the children are very misbehaved. Our wedding is in a garden and our reception is in a historic building. Not a place they can run and be crazy.
If I could just invite them, minus the kids, I would, but we’re allowing other friends to bring children so i feel that it would be unfair to say they are the only ones who can’t bring kids.
My mom doesn’t think they would actually come, but I’m afraid to risk it.
So, if you were in my position, would you leave them off the list or no?