(Closed) need advice… *touchy subject*

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Would she be willing to talk to a therapist? She needs a professional who can help her deal with everything that happened.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

She needs to contact an abuse recovery support group.  There she can find counselors and other survivors of abuse that she can talk to.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

If she wants to maintain a relationship with her brother she has to tell him the truth. It would probably be easier to just walk away from the whole situation, but it can be nice to have a link to your past and I bet your mother would want that. And it will be incredibly scary to tell her brother, but it’s the only way they can have a good relationship. 

As for what you can do, there’s not a whole lot. Be supportive. As how she’s doing but don’t push her. Tell her you’re thinking of her and want her to be at peace. And tell her you love her. Every day.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@diamondsashadiamonds:  Please don’t tell him. It’s not your place. There are a lot of therapits who work on sliding scales which means they will work with what you can afford. I’ve seen therapists for $10 before.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

try looking at your local community centre – they often provide space for support groups. google ‘your area low income therapist / counseling’ etc and see what you come up with – i know that in my area there is one that charges 15$ an hour. does your mother have benefits, belong to a union etc? they may be able to offer her support or pay for counseling. 

look in your phone book (haha i know, so old school) in the municipal pages – there should be a list of health care related numbers, one should be for mental health – call and ask about services in your area. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@diamondsashadiamonds:  if you do a google search for low cost therapy in your area, you should come up with lots of results. i’m in the SF bay area and just doing a quick search came up with tons of places. good luck!

Post # 12
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2872 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Who was the abuser? One of the parents?

Where in California do you live? There are definitely resources for low-income people to afford counseling.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

you should be able to find a free support group at the very least. 

I think counseling would be helpful and even if you had to cut down in some area to afford it well worth it. may therapists do sliding scale so that is something to look into

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

@diamondsashadiamonds:  If you need a low-cost or no fee therapist, you can call the ACCESS line in your county. Every county has an ACCESS line, just google it for your area. You will get someone on the line and you can give her all your requirements (language, no insurance, location, even orientation, models or specialties). They will give you the contact info there. I would seek for someone who is trauma-focused if the abuse was traumatic. Feel free to DM me if you want further help or have questions! If you give me a specific location I might be able to give you a few referrals.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You’re doing the right thing!  Just remember that for the older generation and also a lot of countries, this subject is beyond shameful, and she may be offended that you’re involved.  Talking to a professional is “airing dirty laundry” and may be very difficult for her.  Keep being supportive and a great daughter!

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