(Closed) Need Advice: What would you do differently if you had the chance?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Wannabee

@CanadianBride2011: make certain your bridesmaids flowers and your flowers are as you want them BEFORE the wedding day. Go and meet with the florist and make certain they understand EXACTLY. Also make sure your DJ gives you a sample of their transitions between songs and also a playlist sample. Make sure your hairstylist does the COMPLETE hairstyle on you AS IS for the wedding day before hand so you have a clear understanding. Good luck!!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

There are two things I would change if I could, though they’re not a huge deal…

1. Had the ceremony right before the reception.  We had our ceremony at 2 and our reception at 7 – just made for a really long day and for our guests the delay was long.  I was caught up with wanting Darling Husband to see me right before the ceremony rather than doing a “first look” and we wanted our photos done during the afternoon (for light).  If I had it to do over again we would have done the first look thing, done all the photos, THEN had the ceremony and the reception immediately after. 

2.  I would have had many extra seats… we had just enough for our RSVPs and a bunch of people who had said they weren’t able to make it or who had thought they couldn’t showed up.  People were standing around at cocktail tables during speeches instead of sitting.  We had a buffet and not a served three-course meal, but still… it really bothered me that there weren’t enough seats for everyone!

Good luck!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@AliBride18:  totally agree on the flowers too… mine were supposed to be blue and they were white/green.  I didn’t really care about the flowers anyway, but it was a total waste of money when I didn’t want them in the pictures because they were not the right colour!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wished I would have put more country on my playlist! Me and my Darling Husband aren’t big fans of it, so the songs we selected reflected that. But, whenever our few country songs came on, the dance floor was packed with two steppers! It was super fun. 

Also, I had some strange sentiment that I didn’t want my husband to see me in my veil before the ceremony. Yeah, I have no idea. But, anyhow, I don’t have any pics with my veil on *except* for my bridals and in my ceremony. And even in my bridals, there aren’t too many with my veil. I wished I would have gotten more. When else do I get to wear a veil! 

The last thing is that my cake was supposed to be blue, and it was white. I didn’t double check with the baker on design and color, just on flavor. However, just like others have said, on the day of, I couldn’t care less. It still looked great and I still married my love. =)

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@CanadianBride2011- Menu’s are a complete waste and if the guests already picked what the want to eat or it’s a set dish then it seems like you are giving them an option. I have seen them and they do look pretty but when they aren’t there I don’t think twice.

The only thing about no receiving line and just talking to everyone at dinner is that dinner may not give you enough time at all to talk to your guests. I think anything more than 7-8 tables might be too hard to do.

Post # 11
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Wannabee

@CanadianBride2011: you can scrap the receiving line but then you have to get up during the appetizer to speak to each table… also keep in mind, people make speeches and you have to be sitting down for that. It’s probably easier to just do the receiving line (that’s what I did) – this way, you get it all out of the way at the beginning… then anymore time you spend chatting is bonus time for them. Also to solve surprise non-RSVPers… just do place settings for everyone who bothered to RSVP and then do a table in the back for randoms, just label it for guests and put the name tags as “guests”… once people start finding their seats, this table will likely stay empty, then you can have your caterers remove it but its nice to know its there. Frankly, I think if you can’t bother to RSVP, then you shouldn’t expect a seat! LOL 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I definitely agree about the flowers. My DH’s bout was the wrong color and my bouquet wasn’t the shades of pink that I sent in my inspiration photo. I had a destination wedding so I couldn’t exactly meet with vendors beforehand. I also wish I could have had a hair trial as it didn’t go very smoothly and ended up taking way longer than I had anticipated and put things way behind!  Give yourself way more time than you think you need to get ready and don’t run any last minute errands on your wedding day!  I had a list of things to do on my wedding day and I really wish I could have spent the day relaxing and being pampered as I got ready! Also don’t be afraid to ask your photographer to take specific pictures! I had a list of family pictures and gave her a few inspiration pictures but I also requested several shots/poses as we went through the day! 

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

we had our reception and ceremony at the same place and sort of regret it. while everyone was inside during cocktail hour we were taking pictures and feel like we missed out on it. we didn’t get to hear the music, taste the appetizers, or speak with any our guests! this also meant we couldn’t do a receiving line – which meant that we didn’t get a chance to talk to all of our guests. we regret this. make sure that if you don’t do a receiving line to get up and talk to your guests RIGHT when you are done eating because later in the night you might not be able to. 

throughout the day, breathe and look around. it goes by SO FAST and i swear i don’t even remember half of the day. make it a point to take mental pictures and really try to remember each part of your day!

we didn’t do menus and i don’t think anyone missed them.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wished I would have gone over details more.  I didn’t want to be a bridezilla so I ‘trusted’ professionals and they didn’t do things the way I wanted.  For Example:

– Should have gone over the ceremony more with priest prior to rehearsal; He talked waay more than I wanted to

– Church coordinator told each girl to walk completely down the aisle instead of going after 5 or 6 pews.  This made the processional entirely too long.

– Wish I would have gone in even more detail with the DOC.  She was a friend and did it for free and it just didn’t go as smoothly as I wished.  I TYPED EVERYTHING out, but quickly learned no one reads what you write, you really have to say everything you want.

I could go on, but I won’t.  The thing is, whatever you plan for, something else WILL go wrong.  The only thing you can control on your wedding day is your reaction to things.  Our vintage car broke down and the hotel would not let my photographer into the hotel room to take pre-ceremony pictures.  I tried to keep my cool and did a good job with no tears or yelling…but I still didn’t look as happy as I could have in the beginning.  But you gotta just enjoy it still cuz the day will FLY by!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@CanadianBride2011: yes, great idea. make sure you visit with people you think may leave early. at ours, some people even left without saying bye to us – so if it’s important to you to say – hi, and thank you for coming – make sure you get around to people early. we totally lost track of time and before we knew it our last song was playing!

@angeebride: yep, things defintely WILL go wrong. it’s a given… our DJ played the wrong song as our recessional song so i can’t wait to see the pics our photog got of me during that time. i’m sure “wtf!?!” was written all over my face….  but you’re right, it’s all about how you react!

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