Post # 17
Ok, so according to Hoyle, yeah, totally living in sin, a piece of paper from the state being in that joint isn’t going to change that remotley…sorry…but if your playing Christian rules, that’s how it works…that being said, if your only reservation regarding the whole scenario is the fact that it might upset his parents…that’s not something I would worry about then. Since you are both adults and paying your own way, I fail to see how it’s relevant if you aren’t the ones upset by it.
Post # 18
I don’t get the whole marriage license thing. You aren’t even legally married until the officiant (no witnesses in Texas) sign in.
Bottom line, I assume you two are adults, so you need to do what you want, not what his parents want. However, since you’re posting in the Christian forum, I would strongly encourage you to pray and consider what the Bible says about marriage. It’s generally agreed that living together (especially if having sex) is a no-no, both for the sex aspect but also to avoid the appearance of sin.
ETA: Licenes in Texas are only good for 60 days, so it wouldn’t be valid by the time of your wedding anyway and you’d have to get a new one. Which I guess isn’t a huge deal, but it’s something to think about.
Post # 19
We’ve been living together for two years, and lightning hasn’t struck us yet 🙂
In all seriousness, you are adults, you’ll be thisclose to getting married, and it’ll probably help you save money by combining some expenses. Do what feels right for you.
Post # 20
My fiancee and I closed on our first house (YAY!) Last Feb. and our wedding isn’t until 6/16/2013. His family wasn’t thrilled, but we could not afford the rent or upkeep on the house without living together, and in today’s economy it was also something that we could NOT pass up on. But, at the end of the day you have to do what is best for you. Just make a decision that you can live with, and have no regrets about it afterwards!
Post # 21
I lived with my dude for FIVE years before we got married. The priest was still happy to marry us 🙂
Agree with PPs. You are adults. You need to decide if this is an issue for you. What his parents think really shouldn’t matter. My mom wasn’t thrilled with me moving in with my boyfriend/fiance before marriage but she had to accept that I was an adult and no longer living under her roof. I was paying my own bills and such and it wasn’t their decision.
Post # 22
@mariamorales: How is it any of their business?
Maybe it’s time to grow up and start making decisions for yourselves?
Do what’s right for you. If you’re set on living together before marriage then do it. If it’s against your morals, don’t do it.
Post # 23
If your Fiance is grown up enough to get married then he’s also grown up enough to make his own decisions about where he lives and who he lives with. End of story.
Post # 24
I agree with the majority of the posters on this page, and say go for it! My fiance and I moved in together the month we got engaged, and were already planning to do so before he popped the question. In my opinion, it’s smart to live with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Also, I’ve never really understood why people frown upon couples living together before marriage, especially when the vast majority of couples are sleeping together anyway. I mean, what’s the difference?
Do what makes you happy! It might be hard to break the news to your future in-laws, but do so gently. The reality is there are lots of reasons why it’s beneficial to live with your SO, e.g., cheaper rent, able to spend moer time together, etc. Be firm if they quesiton your intentions, but let then know gently. It will all work out, after all it’s your life!
Post # 25
This! While I’m all for respecting other people’s beliefs, your Fiance clearly doesn’t have the same opinions of living together before marriage as his parents do, so you need to do what’s best and most logical for the 2 of you. Not what makes his parents happiest.
Post # 26
DH and I lived together before we were married, and I don’t think it was a sin to do so. What is sinful about living together?
Post # 27
I would never marry someone i hadnt lived with before. Who knows if their home habits may drive you crazy and you two dont mesh well in a 24/7 situation? But thats just me, and I am Christian, but I am relaxed, if you know what I mean.