(Closed) Need advice…Big fight and I didn't do anything wrong (Long)

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Am I wrong?

    Yes, you should not be friends with another guy

    Yes, you should have said something to FI

    No you aren't wrong, and it will be ok just work through it

    No you aren't wrong, he's just a man and is insecure

  • Post # 63
    Member
    699 posts
    Busy bee

    @HerbieBride:  omg, i couldn’t do that. I hang with my friends, gfuy and girl & my guys cool with it. Now, 90% of the time we’re together. occasionally he’ll go out of town & such. we’re very stable. how can he do this to you. Tell him to get counselling and let it be if he wants to keep you. the green eyed monster is horrible

    Post # 64
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    526 posts
    Busy bee

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    @HerbieBride:  I disagree.  Texting is one thing, Facebooking on a public page – which your guy could see – is totally different.  I’ve been cheated on before by an ex, and I would not expect my Darling Husband to tell me anytime a girl posts on his wall.  I wouldn’t even expect him to tell me if a girl texts or calls him.  I trust my husband. 

    Post # 65
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

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    @mrshunnybunches:  + 1

    You should not have to tell your Fiance about every guy you talk to.  He says he trusts you he should show it by allowing you to carry out your daily life as normal.  He can’t say he trusts you and then turn around and say:

    “Well now everytime I’m out of town I’m going to imagine you with him.”

    That just doesn’t add up.  Either he trusts you or he doesn’t.  And it probably is that he doesn’t trust the other guy from the sounds of it, however, just because a man talks to another woman doesn’t mean there is a sexual connection or infidelity going on.  I think counselling is your best option.  Talk through his worries and issues and sort them out together.  Let him know you are there for him through thick and thin.

    Post # 66
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    11744 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Your Fiance has issues that HE Needs to get help for. I understand he was cheated on, but he needs to get over it before he’s ready to enter a healthy relationship.  You did nothing wrong and do not need to stop talking to this guy.  Your Fiance is being a jealous, insecure, control freak and that’s HIS issue to fix, not your issue to fix for him.  Not talking to the guy isn’t going to fix HIS issue, it’s going to make it go away for the time being, but not solve the root of the problem. He should try therapy.

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