Post # 62
You’re right. I should have been upfront with him about another male posting on my Facebook. Or that I was conversing with him. I just didn’t think anything of it. I didn’t think about how he would feel, or what he would think about it. I told him last year when an ex boyfriend text me and I should have told him about this, whether I thought it was minor or not.
No it doesn’t excuse his behavior, and just to clarify for anyone he did not call me names he just swore…basically at me which doesn’t make it any better but I don’t stand for name calling and he didn’t.
Post # 63
@HerbieBride: omg, i couldn’t do that. I hang with my friends, gfuy and girl & my guys cool with it. Now, 90% of the time we’re together. occasionally he’ll go out of town & such. we’re very stable. how can he do this to you. Tell him to get counselling and let it be if he wants to keep you. the green eyed monster is horrible
Post # 64
I disagree. Texting is one thing, Facebooking on a public page – which your guy could see – is totally different. I’ve been cheated on before by an ex, and I would not expect my Darling Husband to tell me anytime a girl posts on his wall. I wouldn’t even expect him to tell me if a girl texts or calls him. I trust my husband.
Post # 65
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
You should not have to tell your Fiance about every guy you talk to. He says he trusts you he should show it by allowing you to carry out your daily life as normal. He can’t say he trusts you and then turn around and say:
“Well now everytime I’m out of town I’m going to imagine you with him.”
That just doesn’t add up. Either he trusts you or he doesn’t. And it probably is that he doesn’t trust the other guy from the sounds of it, however, just because a man talks to another woman doesn’t mean there is a sexual connection or infidelity going on. I think counselling is your best option. Talk through his worries and issues and sort them out together. Let him know you are there for him through thick and thin.
Post # 66
Your Fiance has issues that HE Needs to get help for. I understand he was cheated on, but he needs to get over it before he’s ready to enter a healthy relationship. You did nothing wrong and do not need to stop talking to this guy. Your Fiance is being a jealous, insecure, control freak and that’s HIS issue to fix, not your issue to fix for him. Not talking to the guy isn’t going to fix HIS issue, it’s going to make it go away for the time being, but not solve the root of the problem. He should try therapy.
Post # 67
We had a huge long talk last night. He of course couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t respect his feelings and just stop talking to him. I can’t understand why he’s making an issue out of nothing. We came up with some compromises. I can live with them I hope he can too. We are also going to go to counseling. I definitely think he needs to fix this but he also needs to know I support him to fix it.
Its funny because yesterday as I was having a serious talk with my Fiance about all this he brought up exactly what you said. He said “Why can’t you exercise with me? We bought bikes last year and you rode yours to work everyday but I barely used mine. We didn’t swim at all. I may not have time to go to the gym with you but I’d like to do other things with you.” I told him I was basically going to suggest the same thing. That after my class at the gym ended I would be on him daily about doing some sort of physical activity with me outdoors. I hope this is the beginning of fixing the problem.