Post # 1
1. Is it rude to invite a friend to the wedding with-out the option to bring a date, and how do you word that on the invitation?
2. Is it rude to invite friends to the 2nd half of the wedding, the party/reception (not the ceramont and dinner)?
Can only afford to feed family, but I have a lot of friends I want to come and party..What to do???
Post # 3
I’d have a seperate celebration with friends another time after the wedding weekend- head to your favorite bar so people can buy their own food/drinks… I think i’d be upset only being invited to celebrate for a third of the event. However, I’ve been to separate reception/celebrations after the wedding as its very understandable to keep the wedding to family only, and I’ve had a blast at these parties!
Post # 4
@Rosemusic: I would say IMO 1 is ok, but I don’t think 2 would work well. I think people understand when they can only come by themselves (unless they have a long time Boyfriend or Best Friend, Fiance, or DH). I think number 2 could leave some hurt feelings that they couldn’t come to the whole event. I am curious to see what others bees think.
Post # 5
Agree with the PP: You don’t need to allow plus one’s for singles, but if they’re in a long term relationship, I think you should invite the SO.
As for the second thing, I think it could definitely result in hurt feelings. I do like the idea of throwing a separate party to celebrate with friends.
Post # 6
To reiterate what PPs have said:
– Perfectly okay to invite friends without a plus-one as long as they are single/not in a serious relationship. (However, if they are married/living with someone/in a long-term exclusive relationship, you should invite them with their SOs.) You simply address the invitation to the individual, and do not add “and Guest.” If you’re concerned that they will bring a date anyway, there are certain little “tricks” other brides have figured out, like including on the RSVP card: “We have reserved __ seat(s) in your honor” and simply insert “1” in the blank for your solo friends.
– Most people find it rude to be invited to the “party” without being invited to the ceremony and/or dinner. Now, your particular friends may not mind if they understand your situation, but generally speaking, it’s a no-no. Having a separate celebration with friends – maybe after you return from your honeymoon – would be much more appropriate.
Hope that helps!
Post # 7
1. No it is not rude to invite a friend without a date if they do not have a significant other. We’re only inviting significant others as guests.
2. Most people will not attend the ceremony because it is quite an intimate, private affair. And most people find it boring. LOL. I’m not sure how I would feel if I were only invited to the party. I think it’s best to just invite everyone to everything, unless there’s number restrictions.
Post # 8
Thanks for all the advice. Defiantly helped!