Post # 1
I just got engaged and even before, me and my fiance had discussed a May wedding. I realize that it is only 4 months away, which is ok with us. We found the perfect location with the only May date open in the whole town on May 12. Yay, happy, content…My grandmother calls and says she received a save the date from a distant cousin (3, 4,maybe further) who annouced her wedding date on May 12. The only guests that will conflict is my grandmother and her parents. Should I contiune to plan my date on May 12 or find something else?
Post # 3
I would, if it is a cousin that you really don’t know and don’t share guests (except grandma) with, then I would just go for it. If your grandma is important to you in attending, you may want to ask her first about her plans, then make your final decision.
Post # 4
@tksjewelry: I agree. I would keep planning. If you share a lot of guests it could be an issue, but otherwise it shouldn’t be a big deal.
Post # 5
@LovebirdsSC: I don’t see why not especially if she’s a distant cousin.
Post # 6
I’d keep your date. I am assuming your grandmother will be attending your wedding 😉
Post # 7
Thanks alot everyone. We have already changed the date twice and settled on this. I just don’t want to hurt anyones feelings.
Post # 8
Just keep in mind that some relatives may pick your cousin’s wedding over yours.
This happened to us – one of DH’s cousins got married on the same day (after we picked the date MONTHS prior) and most of his relatives went to that wedding (it was a lot closer for them, vs traveling hours to ours). DH was a litle sad that the majority of his family wasn’t there – but, they were distant cousins, relatives he didn’t have a super close relationship with, etc…… I didn’t mind so much (fewer guests, etc!) 🙂
Check with the relatives that have the conflict – if they are ok – then keep the date!