(Closed) Need advise- Family Dynamics

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My mom does that kind of stuff all the time. She just loves buying presents and sending them to my house. My mom wouldn’t mean any disrespect by it, she just loves getting me stuff she knows I’ll love.

Post # 18
9028 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If this happened to me I would ask how his mom new he wanted that specific game and how she knew he couldnt afford to get it. its not like she sent over a random gift out of kindness.  It sounds to me like he specifically asked  for the game which would bother me. I dont want his family to know every detail of our finances, expecially when it comes to a video game which is not a necessity in anyway. I would not want this to turn into a trend.

Post # 19
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I didn’t read through the other comments, but I would let it go.  I dont’ see it as disrespecting you – since he didn’t go out and buy it.

I would be curious to know how it all came about – and perhaps that’s a conversation you can have with him tonight.  If he DID go to his mom and tell him about what he wanted, then I would share with him how that makes you feel, and why it’s not ok for him to do.  If his mom was the one that overheard and she did it on her own – then, I’d leave it be and just be careful what’s said in her earshot in the future (although, part of me thinks it’s super cool to have a mom that would do that!).  Shoot, I might even start hinting at bigger things! 😉   

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