Post # 1
i have fallen in love with the idea of an outside wedding… and i would like to get married in a public park, we are already having our photos here and our reception too in the hall which is on the grounds… sounds simple… unfortunately in the UK you can only be married in a building (well except scotland where you can marry anywhere)
the building must be approved for a civil ceremony also, which our reception venue isn’t, and i dont want to change my reception venue.
we had originally planned to marry in my FI churuch, but i am not religious in anyway and feel hypocritical getting married there. i am not sold on the registry office (think this is a state wedding in the US) and really want to get married outside (but the law says i cannot)
so here’s what we have come up with.. we are going to do a bit of everything… my ceremony is not planned until 3pm … so in the morning we are thinking we take our parents and bridal party to the registry office and get married legally…(not in our wedding attire) … then we will go home and get ready for our 3pm ceremony and get married in the park how we would love to do it. then continue the rest of the day as planned and on the sunday we wil have our wedding blessed by FI priest.
the beauty in doing it this way is we can have everything the way we want it, the ceremony written the way we want it, part religious even to reflect my FI’s beliefs (FI often says you do not need to be in a church to be with God, God is everywhere). we can even have who ever we want conduct the wedding as it’s already legally done. the idea of all that is exciting but my only worry is will it take away from our ceremony already being married first. and seeing each other before the ceremony, my FI says it wont…arrrgggh i wish the laws here were different or that i travelled better, i’d just nip to Scotland and marry there lol. i am really fortunate also that the hall in the park privately owns some of the land in the park, it is a really beautiful spot backdropped with blossom trees 🙂 the hall owner has said we can use this if we wish to be undistrurb (no extra cost) or we are free to use any spot in the park grounds but will have to accept passers by.
honest opinions needed please ladies
Post # 3
It sounds lovely, as long as your guests know they are not witnessing your legal marriage, just a ceremony.
Post # 4
I think your plan sounds really good, actually. I think the “not seeing one another before the wedding” is silly (and a little mysoginistic in its origins) so I wouldn’t worry a shred about it … is it important to you? If not, I’d happily sacrifice that to making everything else work for you. And since the legal wedding and the wedding for the guests are on the same day, I wouldn’t even worry about telling your guests, “By the way, we already made it legal this morning …” If anybody knows about the no-outdoor-weddings-in-the-UK law and questions you, you can tell them, “Yes, we took care of the legal business at the registry office this morning so that we could solemnize our marriage in the place that we wanted this afternoon.”
Post # 5
I think your plans sound great!
Post # 6
@futuremrsfitz18: I totally agree that the guests should know. i am also hoping doing things this way will take some of the pressure off me, i am very shy in public gathering and i am actually dreading being the centre of attention, so knowing it’s all legal and the serious stuff has been done in front of a much smaller crowd should help with that… my FI says this way it wont matter if i run, he’s already married to me haha.
Post # 7
@KCKnd2: tbh seeing my FI on the day wouldn’t bother me to much infact it would probably help, this may sound a little sad but i am hoping to make the legal wedding as boring and quick as possible, then go home get ready and act as if it didn’t happen my ceremony is what i would like to remember. I would love to not tell everyone but i know my family only too well and someone would be upset they weren’t told.
Post # 8
I remember very little from my actual ceremony. So much so, I remember being SO HAPPY there was a video so I could ‘remember’ it. 🙂
I don’t think it will take away from the special-nes sof the day but add to it (by having more than one ceremony).
…won’t everyone at the outdoor wedding know it’s not the legal wedding since it’s outside?
Post # 9
@oracle: i don’t think many people will, i’ve been wedding crazy for years now and i only found out last week when i ask the the park co-ordinator :/ i mentioned the idea to my MOH and she had no idea. i suppose most british people would assume weddings are indoors because of the weather 🙂