(Closed) need advise, words of encouragement, or anything really

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1547 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh honey, been there, done that.

One of my exes was like that, he would be “great” (or so i thought) to me and next thing he would be acting like an ass dating another girl.

Im glad he treated me like trash so i could realize i deserve better. Now i have a husband who loves me with all his heart.

You dodged a bullet. Go out with some of your friends, get drunk (dont get it on with anyone though), cry, scream, get that man out of your system and move on.

I know it’s easier said that done, but you deserve better and you will FIND better.

Good luck <3

Post # 5
223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Anamagana:  Best reply ever.  I’ve got nothing to add here!

Post # 6
2453 posts
Buzzing bee

@angie3502:  awww you poor thing.

That really sucks. It sounds like to me, that him and his “best friend” haven’t always kept it friendly. I doubt this was something that happened so quickly..it probably even started before you ever came along.

That is no excuse to leave you high and dry with no explanation (or clearly not the real one). You deserve so much better. I know you sit and wonder how they can go so quick from loving you to not even caring.. especially when all you do is think about them. I have no idea how they can do that either, but what i can tell you is we have all been through it. I think they move on so quickly because they checked out of the relationship before it truly ended.

My ex (who also had baby mama drama and custody issues) ended up living with me and using my car WHILE HE WAS SEEING AN “OLD FRIEND” who he told i was his room mate! I kicked him out and it hurt soooo bad when he really didn’t even seem to care. He was posting about going out etc. He acted like I was some random person and he was very short whenever i tried to talk to him. I couldn’t eat I just wanted to sleep. I would rush to be alone on breaks at work so I could cry.

One day i realized, i am better than this. I wrote down all the negative things about him and realized he was SUCH a loser and why would i waste my time on a loser? I forced myself to go out with friends even though i didn’t feel like it. I started to force myself to say “yes” more. Some people from work I normally wouldn’t hand with or didn’t think I would have anything to talk about with invited me somewhere, sure! why not? I actually started having pretty good times. I got into music and concerts, I got into my dancing and soon everyone noticed how much more happy i had become…even before i noticed it!

Its gonna be a tough ride, feel free to message me if you need some one to talk to. But the moral of my story is..i know it sucks, but you will survive. You will find someone who is sure about things. You will find yourself again.

Post # 8
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Twin Oaks Garden House

@angie3502:  Awww poor thing! Girl you derserve better. I know over that time you dedicated its hard to just let go but things would have been off and on through the relationship and even marriage. Its should have to be so “hard” to be in a relationship. yea things happen and you need to work on things toegther….but thats the key word…together.








Hes an ass. I feel sorry for that poor girl hes with now…..she will soon see.

how old are you??? im sure you have MANY years to still find that someone.



Post # 9
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@angie3502:  Wow. This is not about you lacking anything. You are fantastic. This is about him being a total douche! He is an idiot. 

Post # 12
2453 posts
Buzzing bee

@angie3502:  Yes you can meet a man who already has his life together.

Sometimes when we love someone we just wait for things to change or choose to ignore others. You can open you eyes and see what you were ignoring now.

and maybe they will work out, maybe they wont. The best thing to do is not let it affect you. Don’t check their facebooks – it will cause you more hurt and prolong you moving on. But she can deal with his baby mama drama and all that comes with it.

Post # 13
425 posts
Helper bee

Sorry to hear about your heartbreak. It sounds like a terrible situation to be in.

BUT I believe you can be strong and move on. His insensitive behavior only shows how lucky you are to no longer have him in your life. So I say, don’t waste your tears or emotional energy on him. You don’t have control over what he has done, but you do have control over how you react to it and handle it. You deserve to be treated with so much more respect. He has left your life so that you’re now free to meet the right man who will respect you and treat you right!

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