(Closed) Need an Opinion……

posted 8 years ago in Food
  • poll: Is this cake topper cute or does it send the wrong message?
    Cute and Fun : (36 votes)
    39 %
    Sends a bad message about the bride : (51 votes)
    55 %
    Other (please explain below) : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I think it’s hilarious!

    Post # 4
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    This is just me… but I really hate cake toppers that portray the woman dragging/pulling/roping the guy. I know its just a joke, but its distasteful. To me, anyways. But different strokes for different folks, ya know!

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    It makes you laugh and your Fiance laugh. It means something to both of you! I think your grandmother is reading WAAAY to much into it! And I agree with you! The cake should be FUN! We are having a pirate themed cake with clay figures of me and R jumping out a treasure chest. 

    Post # 6
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    208 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I admitt, personally, I hate that sort of cake topper. I think they’re sexist and mildly offensive. HOWEVER, I’m not you. Your wedding is not my wedding. If you and your soon-to-be fiance love it, by all means use it! It’s your day, and your opinions are the only two that matter.

    Post # 7
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    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I don’t see it the way your grandmother sees it. I see it as you trying to stop him from being so involved in sports.

    From what you have written, it seems to suit you both, so I think it is a good choice for you, plus you both picked it out together.

    Your grandmother seems like a traditionalist, so she probably would be more happy with a more traditional cake topper. I am sure once she sees your vision coming together, she will realize that this is a good choice for you. She may still shake her head about it, but I am sure she will be happy with whatever you decide.

    About purchasing items before you are engaged, I would be careful about that. Your’s and your BF’s tastes may change, so just be wise with your choices and you will be fine.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    it depends on the mind set of the people who look at it, my mother for instance would think the same as your granma that it sends the wrong message, but others would get the joke. there are many other cake toppers that also show women dragging or forcing their men into marriage with the groom trying to get away.. i’m not a major fan of them but i get that its all in good humour.  i would wait to be officially engaged and hav a date b4 buying wedding stuff cos tastes change over time, by the time the wedding rolls around you may not even like this topper anymore

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think it’s funny! I’ve seen a helluva lot worse! Go for it πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
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    2858 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

    I personally don’t care for that one bit. As a matter of fact, I saw it in the store a few months ago and wrote a whole blog post about it.

    I find it sexist and don’t see why any woman would want to be portrayed as a pushy shrew, or why any man would want to be portrayed as a powerless sap.

    That said, it’s your call. I wouldn’t judge someone for using that topper; I just would never use it for myself.

     

    Post # 12
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    353 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I love it! I think your guests will love it too!

    Post # 13
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    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    personally, i won’t have a cake topper like this (although i love the stanley cup), but if you a& your Fiance picked it out and it is special to you- go for it! the people at your wedding sholdn’t judge you for yoru cake topper, if they know you well enough they will get a kick out of it too! as an alternative, you could use it for the grooms cake if you are having one…

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee

    I personally find those distasteful too. Its hard not to read into that as a wussy/powerless groom and a domineering/pushy/shrewish bride, and if it were the groom pulling the bride I would still feel the same way. I really, really dislike those.

    However, my Fiance and I are really sentimental and want to expose how much we truly love each other and want to be married on our wedding day, which some people could find overly mushy and boring! LOL So if this cake topper fits you two as a couple, I say go for it!

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee

    I think that cake topper is awesome!. You both should do what you want to. If this makes you happy, then go for it!! πŸ™‚

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I don’t usually like those kinds of cake toppers. But combined with the trophy it’s pretty funny. And I love the grooms reaction.

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