(Closed) Need an Opinion……

posted 10 years ago in Food
  • poll: Is this cake topper cute or does it send the wrong message?

    Cute and Fun

    Sends a bad message about the bride

    Other (please explain below)

  • Post # 16
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think u might even come across somthing later that might go with your theem ,, its not expensive just keep your eye open, I saw this one alot online. I saw a more charming one gunna try to post it.. good luck what ever makes u happy go with it.

    Post # 17
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If it was just a cake topper with the bride pulling on the groom like that I would not be into it, but I love it with the Stanley Cup and how it ties into your future husbands job. I voted for cute and fun. 

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I agree with what Melly said, the topper by itself….I consider tacky to be honest, but with the Stanley Cup, it’s kinda funny. I do see both sides, I say go for it- it’s your wedding day and you guys think it’s fun, do it! 🙂

    Post # 19
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I don’t think that it sends a bad message and the reason for that is: You chose it!

    If someone else who wasn’t you, perhaps even your BF, Future Mother-In-Law, MOB etc had chosen it, then yes, it might say something about you, a snide comment or the like. But because YOU chose it with your BF and because of the cup, I think it shows that you can both laugh at yourself!

    I think what you have to ask yourself is: Is there anyone who would truly think that you had “roped” him into marrying you who attending the wedding or do your guests have a good sense of humor? Sometimes grandma doesn’t share general opinion. 

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    A word to the wise, chick: it might be best to… censor…. what you share with Grandma about your wedding plans. Or else the whole year is gonna be ruined on you. SHe’s obv gonna see things through the filters of her age, experience etc, and everything you pick will prob be criticised. Just worth thinking about!

    I actually saw that topper a while back, and he was all for it, but then he wants the church musician to play some of The End (the Doors) before I arrive… It suits you guys, so if you are happy that you won’t change your mind about it, go for it.

    Post # 21
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I just wanted to say that I think it’s really vute and funny! But… like another PP said.. different strokes for different folks. My aunt and uncle just had a ball and chain cake topper and everyone thought it was hilarious. It might have been seen as sexist I guess (never actually thought of it before!) But everyone who really knew the couple (ie.. everyone at the wedding!) knew that they are big goofballs and were just being funny. I say go for it!!

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I think the Stanley Cup makes it different and unique to you guys! Without the Stanley Cup I wouldn’t like it…..

    But I kind of agree that it’s a bit early to start buying wedding stuff, you might see things you like more later on and regret your early purchases!

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I find them distasteful as well.  But I know a lot of people that find them hilarious.  My brother and SIL had a similar topper where she was pulling him away from Xbox.  They loved it!  It’s all a matter of taste.

    I think you really need to think about how important it is to you.  I know you dont’ want your grandmother thinking bad things about you, but everyone will have an opinion about your wedding.  Whether it’s a snide remark about your food choices, the music you’ve chosen, or your venue, or your lack of favors, whatever.  If you’re confident in your choices, the comments won’t bother you.  I’m sorry she hurt your feelings!

    Post # 24
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Honestly, I would hope you would get your BF’s opinion on it before you’d use it! It doesn’t matter what grandma or the hive think of it if your fiance is uncomfortable with it…

    I take your question has having two parts: 1) opinion on the topper itself; 2) opinion on buying stuff early.

    1) I am in the camp that thinks it’s sexist and in poor taste; however, I recognize why people like it, and given the background and the inclusion of the sports statue, I think it makes more sense.

    2) Sept 2011 is only a year away, so buying stuff now makes sense. The only glitch I can see is if by the time you get engaged, you have to push the wedding date back. I do think buying stuff too early can lead to regret or changed tastes, but it depends on what it is. Obviously, I don’t recommend buying the dress before you know your venue. But a cake topper will move around pretty easily! Unless you decide to do cupcakes… 😉

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’ve always hated this cake topper.  It makes the bride look like a bitch and the groom look like he doesn’t want to get married.  That’s  just me though.

    Post # 26
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    In most cases, I really hate cake toppers like the one you picked. so your grandmother is probably reacting to it that way.

    However! In this case it obviously means something different and I think it’s cute and silly and fun. Because it’s not just you dragging him into marriage. It’s his whole sports obsession thing. I think maybe your grandmother doesn’t see past that initial reaction.

    The bottom line is that it doesn’t matter what she thinks. It’s your cake and the only people that need to be happy are you and your BF. Beyond that, no one has to get it or love it so long as you two do.

    Funny story – My friends HATE my cake topper too. But it’s 100% perfect for the two of us. They think it’s too childish and informal for a wedding cake because the topper is two monkeys. But we both love it and love how it shows a little bit of our silly selves in what is usually a big formal day. So I bought it and we’ll use it. And those that don’t like it? Well, they don’t have to see the pictures for the rest of their lives, so who cares? 🙂

    Post # 27
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    It personally isn’t my taste, but then again we aren’t having a cake topper at all (white chocolate starfish here!).

    You have to do what is going to make you happy. If you and your SO love it than go with it. My only have two questions…do you think other people would get it? Do they know your situation with your SO and his sports obsession? Or do you think most people would react as your grandmother did and would that bother you? (because your grandmother’s opinion obviously bothers you). In the end do what’s right for YOU! Good luck

    Post # 28
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I don’t think your cake topper sends a bad message about the bride, so much as the groom:o)

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I personally don’t like those toppers at all. It gives the message that the groom doesn’t want to be married at all but the bride is being very controlling about it. My sister was commenting on those last night since she saw one in Walmart for the first time. Her opinion was that while it’s vaguely funny, it’s much more insulting than anything else and has no place in a wedding. There are actually a number of people who don’t like that particular style of topper.

    Either way, do what works for you. You won’t be able to please everyone even with the best intentions.

    Post # 30
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    It’s not my style, I tend to like more romantic cake toppers. But that doesn’t mean it’s not right for you, your bf, and your sense of humor as a couple. I wouldn’t let your grandma get you down.

    But I do agree that you might want to hold out and do a lot of research before you jump into buying things. Our cake topper was my first wedding related purchase, and while I still think it’s cute, I’ve found so many things that I like more than that.

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