(Closed) Need an Opinion……

posted 10 years ago in Food
  • poll: Is this cake topper cute or does it send the wrong message?

    Cute and Fun

    Sends a bad message about the bride

    Other (please explain below)

  • Post # 31
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I personally don’t like cake toppers like that.  I have to drag my husband away from his PS2/Starcraft but I didn’t think it was something to put as a cake topper.

    Post # 32
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    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    You know…I don’t know. My personal opinion of the topper is irrelevant. But, here’s the thing — if your grandmother is alone in her opinion, that’s fine. But what if *everyone* at the wedding thought it was a bad joke? That would be kind of sad. I know people like to say weddings are all about you and your love and it’s your day, and while that is true to some extent, it’s also a day for your family to come and share in and celebrate the start of your married life together. (Unless you are eloping or something)

    So to start the marriage by putting a potentially offensive topper on the cake — I don’t know. I guess I’d rather err on the side of boring than offend people, but then you really cannot please everyone and people love to find fault with a wedding!

     

    My mother really, really doesn’t want us to have black ribbons on our invitations (it’s a long story). She promised to pay for and change the colors herself. So I agreed, because she will have memories of those invitations for a long time, and I don’t mind. Now, if the black ribbon had significance (like the Stanley cup does to you), we might not change it.

     

    Why not have a non-pulling bride/running groom cake topper (i.e. two people in love) with a Stanley cup? Or get one of those where the bride and groom’s legs dangle off the cake, and stick the cup there for them to watch? Or put your initials on the cup, like you are each other’s trophies? Or have a groom’s cake and put the cup on that?…lots of fun alternatives out there…

     

    Or, just do it, and Grandma can live with it. The best bet might be to keep offbeat wedding ideas a surprise, and hide them from the older generations until the last moment! 🙂

    Post # 33
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    58 posts
    Worker bee

    First, let me say that I think given the Stanley Cup’s significance and your husband-to- be’s career I don’t think the cake topper is offensive; however, at first glance without the background infomation you gave I did pause…

    I agree with the points Miss Sequoia made. There are a few issue to take into consideration. 

    1. Do you mind if people are offended or have the wrong impression of you based on the cake topper? Remember his family and people you don’t know very well may be there. (if you aren’t inviting only close family and friends)

    2. Will you feel compelled to explain the cake topper to people? I only say this because it seems that a seed of doubt has already been planted in your mind. On your wedding day you will have too much to worry about without worring about the cake topper.

    3. Will most of the people at your wedding be your age group or will they be of a more “traditional” age group who may just see the bride manhandeling the groom and totally ignore  the Stanley cup?  I know most of my family is traditional so I would want them to remember my wedding for the food, my dress, the ceremony, but not a decoration that MIGHT be taken out of context.

    If any of these are are a yes. I would say use something else and use this one for your bridal shower cake. However, if you are having a hip more casual modern wedding with mostly younger people I would say go for it!

    Post # 35
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    689 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think it’s cute!! It seems to fit you and your bf. He loves it, you love it…go for it!The first bridal show we went to, a vendor gave us some great advice…Choose something, stay true to yourself and remember it is about the “TWO” of you. Everyone is not going to like Everything you do at Your wedding!

    Post # 36
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    401 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Congrats on the engagement. I do kind of like the cake topper and looked up one with an xbox (FI is into video games) and may put that on his grooms cake. So maybe you could still use that topper just for fun but have a formal and fancy cake topper for the actual cake.

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I’ve never been fond of that cake topper, but I think if you love it, you should use it. It’s definitely funny and adding the cup gives it a twist.

    Post # 38
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    1995 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I guess what may cause you trouble if you just put the couple topper on the cake and not a sports reference.  How will all that fit on top of a cake?  One or the either but not both and then it really would seem tacky.

    Post # 39
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    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    If I saw this at a wedding, I would be a little…. confused… so I voted no.  But, if it really speaks to and your bf and you really like it, you should keep it.  

    I’ve been much more offended by some things I have heard in the actual marriage ceremony about a woman’s role in marriage/society.

    Post # 40
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    7172 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I think it’s more suitable for a grooms cake, if you want to use it.  While I can’t imagine anyone not realizing it’s a joke… it’s a little too joke for my tastes.

    Post # 41
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I think it is a fabulous cake topper.  My future husband is the same way with sports.  My cake topper is similar to this one.  Everyone I’ve shown it to thinks it’s hilarious.  It makes it personal to the two of you and that’s what’s important.  I don’t believe it is sexist at all.  It’s merely a joke.  I think you should definitely use it

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