Post # 1
First off I don’t really want any remarks about being too young to get married or anything like that, that’s why I didn’t list my age because I love my fiancé very much and we have been together five years through thick and thin. I don’t want to hear I am too young or don’t know what I want or anything like that.
My fiancé and I got engaged on August 6th, 2009 our wedding date was set for October 23, 2010 up until about a month ago. We decided to post pone the wedding with an unplanned date. Now we were planning on having a large wedding. I had already sent the invites out and everything so we had to send retractions out things like that. Now when I think of actually planning our wedding in a few years I don’t want it to be big. I guess its because I am being lazy and don’t want to put the effort into inviting everyone or its because I am embarrassed that we had to call the wedding off. Is that okay to go from a guest list of like 250 down to 100 max? I just want it to be more intimate more special.
Post # 3
It’s your wedding so of course it’s okay to cut the guestlist down! My cousin just did the exact same thing a few months ago. She sent out beautiful invites to all our family and friends, but then realized it wasn’t what she truely wanted. She then sent out retractions and planned for a smaller more intimate style wedding. Her guest list was cut from 150 to 25…I wasn’t even invited! haha. She made it wedding party, parents, and grandparents only.
Just remember it’s your day so do it how you want. I’m not really sure how age comes into play here or why you mentioned it, but it doesn’t really matter how old you are so I wouldn’t worry about that either.
Post # 4
i’m sorry- i’m confused. are you looking for advice on how to scale down the wedding?
Post # 5
Sounds like there’s going to be significant time between the two dates, so I think it’s perfectly okay to rethink your guest list. By then you will have established new friendships and maybe let go of some old ones, so it would be expected, I think.
Post # 6
I am guessing if you are postponing your wedding for several years people will not even be fazed about not being invited when they originally were. Between now and then enough time will have passed that I think most people will not even be planning on attending. If it were pushed back a couple of months, it would be a little different, but years- I think your in the clear.