Need better ways to handle our how-we-met story…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

Maybe you just can say that you met online and that your first date was going out for pizza?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Well, think of it this way: you don’t have to put everything on your wedding website. You don’t have to put ANYTHING on it, really–whatever you want. So there’s no need to go into great detail if you don’t feel like it. A lot of people don’t really explore those parts of the website that much anyway, especially older people.

If it makes you feel any better, Fiance and I met under pretty much the most awful circumstances possible. We met through a mutual friend, who happened to be, you know, his girlfriend at the time. Their relationship was completely disintegrating, and I was not really involved with its disintegration, but still, very, very bad, and taking the scandalous to a whole new level (your story doesn’t sound bad to me at all, lol!). We don’t tend to tell family members this story. What we did with our wedding website for the “Our Story” part was to give a brief summary of our relationship and then say “our story-with recipes” since cooking and eating together is how we fell in love–we focused instead on highlighting something we share that we can share with others, which sums us up better anyway. I don’t think anyone cares that there’s no super-detailed narrative on there–frankly I don’t think most people are all that interested in us anyway. So maybe try avoiding a sort of linear re-telling of your story and focus on a cute aspect of your lives together instead!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I wasn’t going to put any “how we met” info on our webpage. I figure people just need the hotel info, shuttle info, directions, and registry, and that they probably don’t really care about the rest. Plus, I’m lazy.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We met when Fiance was my student (he was a businessman student)…so that’s a fun story to tell when my (now university) students ask how we met!!!

I agree with danadelphia – if you are worried about how your story will be received, keep it simple! 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I always hate the “how we met” question… Because pretty much it’s my last engagement ending and me “jumping” into Jason’s arms (and home)…  Now thats not how it ACTUALLY happened, there was alot more involved, but that’s who it looks from the outside.  I’ll probably fore-go the “How we met” section (when we finally do get engaged).  Although his family all knows the story and they accept me anyway and I’ve only met them a few times and his parent’s always tell me they love me… So it’s pretty sweet.  I think they can see how happy Jason is (and how much I love him) so they don’t really care HOW we met or how our relationship started.

I say, sugar coat it for the older folks, and keep the details to a minimum.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’ll probably skip the how-we-met too for two reasons. 1) We met on match.com which is both a short story and not a very interesting one. 2) everyone that is coming to the wedding already knows how we met (i think)

 

honestly i’d just skip it

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

OOOOH I think the comic strip idea sounds FANTASTIC! That sounds like a great solution to me!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Just tell the story of your first date! If anybody asks how you met, they’ll ask at your wedding and you can tell then.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I don’t like our story of how we met (I messaged him on myspace- GAG) so I just didn’t add it to our page. If people want to know, they’ll ask!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

keep it simple. no need to air it all out!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

eehhh….I think our meeting story is a LOT worse!  It’s funny though and we laugh about it with our friends…but I really didn’t want my family to know all the gritty details!

I just shortened mine down to include ONLY the romantic, sweet things and left it at that!

I like the part that you met online and then drove 5 hours to meet eachother.  YOu (obviously) knew it was right from the very beginning….and here you are now!

Period. 🙂

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Although we just met at work, I’m leaving it out entirely!

Just info about the event will go on our site.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was just trying to figure out how to tackle this one too.  We met because he randomly IMed from America Online and we started talking and finally met.  I never talked to people I don’t know online but for some reason I did with him.  It has a happy ending, but I just hate the stigma of meeting online, like we were two desperate people who couldn’t meet anyone in real life, which is totally untrue, and I know its untrue for most people who meet online as well.  It is just that very little people on the outside see it that way unfortunately.  Usually we just tell people we met through mutual friends in a bar, which is probably a worse story to have, but people seem to accept it more, haha, anyway, I am thinking of just skipping that section altogether as well.

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