(Closed) Need better ways to handle our how-we-met story…

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 32
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

You could just be vague and say “our love of “___” game brought us together. We spent our first date doing X, and so on. Having that intro sentence for how we met will be good b/c you won’t be leaving it out (like you wanted) and its fun!

I met my husband at 3AM after a night of partying and made out with him the first night we met (def not a story for the elders or our website) so I cleaned it up and made it sound all lovey πŸ™‚

Post # 33
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Worker bee

Well, truth be told.  We met online too.  My family doesn’t know that.  I told them he was a friend of a friend and he fixed my computer and asked me out.  His mom is much more open and accepting of those things, and knows the whole truth.  5 years later, and my family still doesn’t know.  I don’t think they ever will and I think I’m okay with that.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@o0olibelulao0oAwww that’s so sweet!! I’m glad you have your happily ever after πŸ™‚ It MUST be fate since neither one of you is the other’s type..

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I, too, have struggled at times with the how we met story. We met through our friends because my friend was dating FIs friend and we were going to his apartment to pick up alcohol (we were under 21). That is when I met Fiance for the first time. A few days later we saw each other again at a party and talked the whole night. About 2 days after that I showed up (somewhat intoxicated) at his doorstep and well….you know. Then after that night we were literally together all the time! Definitely NOT an appropriate dating story to tell family! And like you, we never dated, we just werent in a relationship and then we were! We never had a “first date” or anything like that and it used to get me down. SO when it came time to do the website this is what I wrote…..

Noah and I met in January of 2006 through our friends who were also dating. About a week after we met we saw each other again at a party and instead of socializing, found ourselves talking to each other for 3 hours. After that night, we realized that we had an instant connection and became best friends. Now, 4 years later, we are planning our wedding!!

Its short and sweet and is truthful yet not too revealing!! And then, like other bees have suggested, I put a little bit about what we love NOW as a couple:

Anyone that knows Noah and I will attest to how much we love our animals. They are practically our children. Our pets (Nixon, Kiddie and Eddie) are a huge part of our lives and we would do [almost] anything for them. All 3 of them are rescue animals and if we had more room,time,and money we would probably adopt every kitten and puppy we could possibly find!

 

It lets people know a little bit about us together without going into too much detail! Anyways, your story is just that – its yours and no one else’s so be proud of that!

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh man it’s nice to see that not everyone has a safe-for-all how-we-met story! 

Fiance and I met at goth/industrial night at a club in DC.  He just introduced himself, no mutual friends or anything, and then he was a good kisser and I was impressed by his cojones so we exchanged numbers, I told him I wouldn’t call him so he’d have to call me, and then he did! We had actually both planned to start dating casually that night…

I’m keeping it short, substituting the goth nightclub thing with “we met in dc”, and focusing on how we both made a real effort to keep in touch with one another even when it would have been easy to let it go. 

The five-hour drive to meet someone you felt a connection with is really romantic, and you can just say you felt comfortable together right away – that’s what hanging alone at his house means, anyway!  I agree that skipping the sleeping in his apt for a week thing is a good move.  If you don’t think of yourself as a gamer, than ‘online’ might be better than ‘playing blank online’. 

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Rather than describe the first encounter, i would just describe early in you relationship…It all started as a long distance relationship…maybe add some detail about how you knew it was getting serious or when the 2 of you realized this was the person you want to spend the rest of your life with… you can pick and choose some of the cuter/more appropriate events from early in your relationship to gloss over how you met. 

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I can beat the 5 hour drive…my Fiance flew 3,000 miles to meet me and then I flew over to the Netherlands to live with him. πŸ˜‰

Like the OP, I met Fiance in an online game.  Gosh, it has to be almost 8 or 9 years ago.  We were in the same guild at the time but due to the time differece, rarely talked.  One Saturday he was in my raid group (I know this doesn’t mean much to non MMO players…) and we started chatting.  This lead to trying to play togeather whenever we could and that lead to IMing each other every day.  That lead to webcam chats…about this point a mutual friend (RL friend for me) in the same guild told us to just meet already.

So in July 2005 he flew over to Florida to visit me for a month.  All I can say is love at first sight really does exist and when he hugged me for the first time in person I didn’t want it to end. πŸ˜‰ So, we didn’t let it.  On December 5th, 2005, I packed up and flew to the Netherlands where we’ve happily been living together ever since.

I think if you talk to gamers, both the computer and table top type, this is how they typically find their partners.  It’s such a small world and there’s only so many people with the same interest…it really works out better if the other understands your addictions.  Like having to buy new dice everytime you come across some. LOL

Post # 39
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Bumble Beekeeper

What about saying it something like this:

Not usually the type to spend a lot of time gaming online, QuietSerenity definitely had a winning moment while playing [game] in December 2007 – she met MrQS! After getting to know each other a little more, their friendship melted/blossomed/transformed/developed into a relationship a month later, despite the physical distance between them. In April, QuietSerenity moved to be with MrQS, and they’ve been going strong every since. 

Post # 40
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hahaha, my Fiance actually met online as well- Myspace to be exact! He had never messaged a girl before that he didn’t know and I had never responded to any message I had received from someone I didn’t know. However, when I got his message telling me my smile was too beautiful not to comment on, I couldn’t resist writing back. We spoke for a few weeks online and on the phone before our first date, and I actually even gave my best friends his online info and phone number ‘just in case’ because I had never done anything that crazy! 4 years later, he’s my FH! We are still struggling with how to write this up for a webpage or even tell people who ask at the showers/wedding, so I love this thread! Keep the stories coming πŸ™‚

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I deleted the “how we met” section from our wedding website on theknot.com. I see our website as a place people can go for directions and further details on the wedding, not us as a couple.  Each of our guests know me well (or my Fiance well) and I just didn’t feel like writing out that long story online.

You can do the same- my website has worked out great πŸ™‚ I did post a photo or too, because that is what I always love seeing on other websites.

Post # 42
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

EDIT: sorry, how did I miss that this thread was a year old? stupid late night web browsing… XD

Post # 43
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Blushing bee

Yeah less is definitely more. I’ve seen friends’ websites that went into every gory detail of their decade long relationship from high school, analyzing every break up and make up… from both the bride’s and the groom’s perspectives. 

Short and sweet or nothing at all! 

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I had the same dilemma. Working on our website stumbled upon how to say that we met online without it sounding ‘desperate’? I just wrote that we are firm believers of fate, kind of implying that we met in the online world.

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with not putting it on there.  I just took that page off our website.  I feel like people think they are going to hear this incredibly romantic story and then they see our story.  So I just took it off.  

Post # 46
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Sugar bee

I’m not engaged but people ask my FH and I all the time.  We met on the net, a story which I would like to switch with ‘met at the grocery store’ or the like.  But Mr. O insists on bragging that he met me on the net.

My only thing is I gussy up the story to say we met on Eharmony instead of Plenty of Fish.  People who are still uncomfortable with the idea of internet dating seem to accept Eharmony as being ‘ok’ and those couples on the commercials are so darn cute!

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