Post # 1
I only have 4 really good friends, but my fiance is super popular and has 2 brothers. I feel like I need to add at least 1 one more bridesmaid just so he can have his 2 brothers, and 3 really close friends as groomsmen. One of his brothers is engaged, and I have never met her. She seems really nice, and is going to be my future sister in law. Their wedding is scheduled for 3 months after ours (16 months from now). Should I ask her to be my bridesmaid and then she could walk with her fiance/my future brother in law? Maybe I should try to get to know her a little better? It’s hard because they live 1000 miles away. We just became friend’s on facebook, and have chatted a little, but that’s about it.
Another option would be my fiance’s bf’s girlfriend. We’re friends, but not close per se. She doesn’t have a lot of female friends either, and her bff got married without telling her. She was upset because now she won’t get to be a bridesmaid in her friend’s wedding. So she could walk with my fiance’s bf? Any input is much appreciated!
Post # 3
I wouldn’t ask someone you are currently not good friends with. The couple could break up, there’s the possibilty when you meet that you won’t hit it off, etc, and then you’re stuck with someone you barely know and it could be awkward. Or they could drop out and leave you stuck with a dress or whatever.
It looks like you have a while until your wedding, so I would wait a bit to ask the 5th girl. I asked my bridemaids 6 months before the wedding. Another possibillity would be a female family member. Any close cousins?
Post # 4
Have you thought about just having different numbers of bridesmaids and groomsmen? There’s no rule that says both sides have to be equal, especially if you are forced to pick someone you aren’t that close with. Having one less bridesmaid than his groomsmen isn’t even really that big of a difference.
Post # 6
Don’t ask a complete stranger to be your bridesmaid. You don’t have to have an even bridal party. Plenty of people have 4 and 5 or 3 and 4 or whatever. I once went to a wedding that was 6 and 12. Ask the people who you are closest to and who you couldn’t imagine getting married without having them there with you. If it’s a different number for each of you, who cares? It’s not about the look, its about the people.
Post # 7
i don’t think it’d be a big deal to have odd bridal party numbers… esp when it’s only different by 1!
i definitely agree with the pp’s that you shouldn’t ask someone that you aren’t close to or don’t know very well. i realize that the gesture is nice in the case of your fi’s bm’s gf… but do you want to take that risk on your wedding day? and JUST for the sake of evening out your bridal party?
honestly, i’m sure one of your bm’s will have a blast walking in with two gm’s and once it’s all said and done, ppl won’t even notice the difference!
Post # 8
Uneven sides are fine! Don’t ask someone to be a bridesmaid just because you feel like you need a filler. She will know that’s why you asked and it will make her feel like crap.
Post # 10
I agree with PP. Having uneven numbers it totally fine. Don’t stress yourself about asking people that you hardly know.
Post # 11
My suggestion is to go with uneven sides. We ended up w/ uneven numbers, and it’s totally working out fine. We have one more girl than guys, so one groomsman is going to walk down the aisle with 2 bridesmaids. I think it will look cute!
Post # 12
I agree – uneven sides.
Being in a wedding is expensive. There’s the dress, the shoes, the hair/makeup, the shower, the bachelorette… I’ll happily go to the expense for a close friend or family member, but a stranger? I’d feel so awkward being asked as there really is no polite way to say no.