(Closed) Need desperate help!!! how do I forget his past???

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
154 posts
Blushing bee

I totally agree with everyone saying you need to speak your mind more. You are hurting anyway so what have you got to lose?

I think for the sake of your happiness you need to work on changing that about yourself and eventually you will become for comfortable with it. 

Personally I think it’s nice when they just do stuff like delete old gf’s without us having to ask. 

Nobody is perfect and yes I have had to ask my SO to remove pictures of women, including his ex wife out of his phone (photo i.d & reg. pic’s) and he knows. I am clear on how I feel and he knows it means more if he does it himself.

Now in your SO’s defense if you don’t speak up and tell him how you feel how is he to know? He isn’t a mind reader and some women out there really don’t care about ex’s and pictures.

we all have different life experiences and different sensativity levels to different things.

so my advice is have a glass of wine (or two)  Laughing & sit down. Somebody said make a list, I think thats a great idea and calmy talk and express your feelings!! Only after that and seeing how he reacts will let you know if he really loves and respects you. 

I am betting after a good talk he will do the right thing. 


Post # 33
2 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

Your partner doesn’t have any respect for you ! you have to tell him .. that you are the one who shares the bed with him and no those ex girls anymore , if he says no then you should move on girl . Having thoughts or pics of ex partners is a sign that he’s still thinking about that woman and has a feeling for her. If you re not married or dont have children then leave him and found better man who will treat you better. You deserve better ! He doesn’t have solved his past relationship yet … it is very hard to deal with those people believe me , all the time hear her name … awww girl this is serious. Plus he doesn’t want sex with you that often? what is wrong with him ? every guy likes sex, if they could they would prefer it every day .. and you know what ? – he has big sex history , and you don’t that is not fair either. You had only one partner while he had tons of others . Does this bother you too? – I have similiar problem that my partner had 30+ women before me .. but you know im an idiot i married him and now i have to deal with that … trying to forget on his past , but you know atleast his ex girls doesn’t bother us anymore that would just kill me. You need to solve this problem girl , don’t just ignore it , it will come up again and it will be even worse then ever before ..

Post # 33
1 posts

just dont feel for it. he justed loved that girl so deeply. so he cant think over. so try to attract him to you. and give him sometime. be a friend to your hubby and then make him love you. then all will getover again:) be cool. just keep smiling. everything will change oneday. bye. take care

Post # 34
5373 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

selva.vignesh.315:  Please keep in mind that this thread is 3 years old :/

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