Post # 1
Hi fellow LDR ladies. My Fiance went back to work Saturday. When he is gone, he emails every day. It takes him two days to get there and I got my first email as usual. Yesterday, no email. Things are crazy on his ship right now and I am trying to remember that and not panic, but it always makes me nervous when I don’t hear from him. He’s headed to the Ivory Coast from Angola right now so there are some safety concerns with his job. I’ve checked the news sites and his corporate website, so I am sure he is just busy.
Any suggestions for how to deal with this when it arises. I hate feeling so nervous. I guess part of it is that he just proposed Saturday before he got on the plane. I am so excited about that and so into making plans that it’s hard to even go a day without him.
Post # 3
First of all, CONGRATULATIONS! So excited for you! And second, I TOTALLY understand how you feel. When we were LDR, we had a routine, and I always knew when he’d call so when he DIDN’T….I. Freaked. Out. I couldn’t sleep, I was nervouse all the time, felt sick, couldn’t concentrate on anything. I was a hot mess. And then I would finally hear from him and he would have a totally reasonable explanation for why he couldn’t call me when he usually did and why he didn’t answer when I tried to get in touch with him. I think this only happened like 4 times out of the 12 months we were LDR, but still. Torture. So, you’re not crazy and it’s okay! Honestly, I’m not sure there’s a lot to be done about being nervous until you hear from him….you can check the websites and KNOW that nothing bad has happened, but your imagination will still get the best of you. But is just that–your imagination. I’m quite sure, and I’m sure you are, deep inside, that he’s fine! But it’s still really hard, I know. As far as what to do without him, all I could do was set goals for myself to accomplish between visits. That way, I had something I needed to get done before I saw him again–finish a book he’d wanted me to read, finish a present I’d been making for him, improve my endurance on the treadmill (HA)–and then I would think to myself, “CRAP! He’s going to be here in a week, and I STILL haven’t finished this!” Made the time go a lot faster. I’m sorry you’re having a hard time, and I’m sending you good thoughts, and lots of (((HUGS)))! Come here when you need to talk!
Post # 4
Oh my goodness! Congratulations! That’s so exciting!
Try not to make yourself crazy with worry. It’s absolutely natural to worry about him, especially if you know his job is dangerous, but try to busy yourself with other thing. Shoot him a quick email just letting him know you’re a little worried about him. If he could just send you something quickly to let you know he’s safe, you’d appreciate it. I’m sure he’s just a little busy with his job and just can’t get a second to email.
To help take your mind off things…how did he propse? I think I missed that post!
Post # 5
My Fiance and I were in an LDR for four years. I know how you feel. But just try to remember the wonderful feeling you have when you’re together. Your love doesn’t fade or diminish when you’re apart.
Post # 6
Thanks Ladies. I heard from him today thank goodness. Work is busy and he was a little stressed thinking that I want to get pregnant right away after the wedding. I obviously need to reassure him that is not the case at all.
@ Peas He proposed at the airport right before his plan took off. It’s not the way he wanted to do it, but it sure felt perfect to me. He just held me in his arms and asked me while he brushed the hair away from my face. It was so sweet.
Thanks for all the good advice. It helps having wedding plans to make….