(Closed) Need encouragement

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS! So excited for you!  And second, I TOTALLY understand how you feel.  When we were LDR, we had a routine, and I always knew when he’d call so when he DIDN’T….I. Freaked. Out.  I couldn’t sleep, I was nervouse all the time, felt sick, couldn’t concentrate on anything.  I was a hot mess.  And then I would finally hear from him and he would have a totally reasonable explanation for why he couldn’t call me when he usually did and why he didn’t answer when I tried to get in touch with him.  I think this only happened like 4 times out of the 12 months we were LDR, but still.  Torture.  So, you’re not crazy and it’s okay!  Honestly, I’m not sure there’s a lot to be done about being nervous until you hear from him….you can check the websites and KNOW that nothing bad has happened, but your imagination will still get the best of you.  But is just that–your imagination.  I’m quite sure, and I’m sure you are, deep inside, that he’s fine!  But it’s still really hard, I know.  As far as what to do without him, all I could do was set goals for myself to accomplish between visits.  That way, I had something I needed to get done before I saw him again–finish a book he’d wanted me to read, finish a present I’d been making for him, improve my endurance on the treadmill (HA)–and then I would think to myself, “CRAP!  He’s going to be here in a week, and I STILL haven’t finished this!”  Made the time go a lot faster.  I’m sorry you’re having a hard time, and I’m sending you good thoughts, and lots of (((HUGS)))!  Come here when you need to talk!

Post # 4
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Oh my goodness! Congratulations! That’s so exciting!

Try not to make yourself crazy with worry. It’s absolutely natural to worry about him, especially if you know his job is dangerous, but try to busy yourself with other thing. Shoot him a quick email just letting him know you’re a little worried about him. If he could just send you something quickly to let you know he’s safe, you’d appreciate it. I’m sure he’s just a little busy with his job and just can’t get a second to email.

To help take your mind off things…how did he propse? I think I missed that post!

Post # 5
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper


My Fiance and I were in an LDR for four years. I know how you feel. But just try to remember the wonderful feeling you have when you’re together. Your love doesn’t fade or diminish when you’re apart.

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