- 5 years ago
@anon00: I’m very good at oral sex (I’ve been told this by all my partners), I also enjoy it so that could have something to do with it as well. Some tips: use your hand and stroke him while swirling your tongue/sucking the head, softly lick and suck his balls, lightly scratch/tickle his inner thighs, don’t just stroke up and down – kind of rotate your hands, watch him masterbate to see what he uses to get off, take him in your mouth as far as you can (unexpectedly if possible), don’t be afraid to get a good grip on him – if you’re hurting him, he’ll tell you. There are tons and tons of things you can do, but communication with your partner is most important because it’s about what gets you both off and what you’re comfortable with.
ETA: Switching speeds is really good too, like start off slow then build up faster or vice versa. Also, the closer he is to finishing his balls will (usually) pull up closer to his body. You can tease him to where he’s ready to finish then pull back. My SO says his orgasms are more intense this way. AND my SO loves when I start him off with a BJ and then we finish with sex because his orgasms are “insane” apparently lol, but he also finishes faster so take that into account.
Second what futuremrsjohnson said, very well put lol, biggest thing I would elaborate on is being a little , or depending on the guy, a lot ‘rough’ or firm in regards of grip. Also as every guy will tell you, the wetter the better , so in other words don’t have cotton mouth if your giving him oral and use lots of lube if your taking matters into your own hands. One of the biggest things I’ve learned over the years is that guys like surprises, try surprising him with oral when least expecting it, wear something sexy or even go to bed naked(unless that’s your norm) switch up positions, suggest positions that intrigue you. When I was less experienced I never suggested a position or asked to change , now I’m perfectly comfortable doing so. Couple favorites ( girl on top but approach him reverse cowboy, do that for a while then while staying ‘connected’ simply lay down on top of him but your back will be to his belly. (Great for allowing him to kiss your neck, feel your body, etc) another favorite is doing it ‘doggie style ‘ but on the floor in front of a mirror , very sexy! Talk dirty , tell him what you want , he’s not a mind reader and be sure to switch up locations.
@anon00: my Fiance is BIG into visuals and really dirty talk. Now, I will say that some of the stuff we do and say is only okay because it turns both of us on, and we trust each other to keep it completely in the bedroom. That being said, Fiance loves nothing more than when I grind back and forth with my hips when I’m on top, and touch my breasts and down there on myself. We love to tell each other dirty stories, describing me as the submissive one or his “dirty little girl.” He also likes when I ride him reverse cowgirl sitting up completely straight and sliding up and down (again, very visual). I would say try something a little out of your comfort zone and be enthusiastic! Fiance loves when I give him blowjobs, mainly because he can tell how much I love it. Make him think he’s the best thing you’ve ever had in your mouth and mean it! Also, use your tongue, especially on the bottom side right below his head 😉 good luck!
“Nonplussed” means “confused.” Do you mean that he looks confused, or that he does not look excited? Using words correctly helps us properly ascertain your meaning.
@anon00: For oral – this is kind of gross when you’re not in the moment – but spit on his penis throughout the act (I saw it in porn movies and thought I’d give it a shot… he seems to like it). If you are able to take it deep down your throat, try that. But only when he’s at peak hardness… if he’s still getting it up you might bend/hurt it. My husband also likes taking control during oral so sometimes he will speed it up, grab my head, pull my hair, etc. I can’t think of a nicer way to put this but it’s almost as if he’s having sex, just in my mouth. Like he will thrust his penis in my mouth while I have no control. Hope that makes sense.
I echo enthusiasm.
My boyfriend cannot get enough of how much I love to perform oral sex.
I sometimes like to tease him. I’ll start by kissing and touching his balls, putting one in my mouth (be very gentle and only really suck on them if he gives you the go ahead, some guys are very sensitive and terrified of this). I like to lick the “Taint” the area between his balls and his anus and then lick the seam of his balls and end at the shaft. I’ll maybe kiss the tip of his dick at this point and look up at him and grin in a dirty way.
By this time he’s usually dying for me to do more but I’ll hold off and maybe touch myself a little while making eye contact with him. Don’t be afraid to get into touching yourself, stroke your tits and finger yourself. If I ever finger myself and then suck it he usually goes wild. Or if I stick my finger into his mouth and make him taste how wet I am.Finally I’ll go down on him for real. The tips given by the other ladies are very good and everything I’d suggest!
I do usually have a glass of water with me and sometimes I’ll hold some in my mouth and put his penis in my mouth and so he gets the sensation of warm mouth and cold water (I’ve also heard that if you do the same thing with champagne or soda water -that fizzy stuff- it gives interesting sensations).
My man also goes wild if I bite him or scratch him or dig my nails into his back when we’re going at it. And if I whisper dirty things to him or tell him how much I need his cock. Dirty talk in general is always a turn on! Tell him how he makes you feel like a little slut and how good he feels inside you.
Sometimes while we’re doing it doggy style I’ll grab one of his hands and put it on my tits or if I’m on top I’ll make him grab them. He loves when I take control and show him what I want. When we do it doggy style and I know he’s getting close I usually will reach around and grab his balls (again be careful just lunging at them! My man’s ok with that but some guys are very sensitive there) and squeeze them (gently!!) in rhythm with his thrusts. Do not squeeze them after he comes! MY man is usually down for almost anything but he says that they are so sensitive right after that it can be painful!!
But honestly, the most important thing is enthusiasm and a sense of spontaniety!
Also, have you done or heard of kegels! My boyfriend loves when he is completely still and I just use my muscles down there to squeeze and release!
OH! And another thing- any advice on sex positions for “butt men” that don’t actually involve the bhole? lol
OBviously doggie, etc…but anything more creative that I might not know about?
@anon00: Have you guys done it with him sitting down and you lowering yourself onto him.
The position gets a little uncomfortable for you (You have to like either grip a table in front of you hold onto him or onto hte very edge of the chair and also a lot of your weight goes onto your legs usually on your toes) but my man loves it. We can usually do about like 3 minutes of it before I can’t do it any more!
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