- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Sorry in advance for the venting session, but this is the only place I can type out my feelings and get advice. I’ve already talked to FI about it, but he just ignores her.
I need a little advice. I’ve been friends with this girl (who I’ve also asked to be a BM) since Jr High. We stopped hanging out in high school, but picked our friendship back up when we attended nursing school together.
We have a group of 6 friends. The group consists of me, my FI, my friend, and three other people. We all go out together and we are planning a trip to Tennessee at the end of July.
Everyone in the group likes to go out, eat dinner, have a few drinks, play games at our apartments, and just have fun. I should say everyone except my friend. She is SO MEAN to everyone in the group.
For example, yesterday we went four wheeler riding and her flip flops got dirty. Later, when she was getting in the back of my car, I had some clothes on the floor and she proceeded to step on them and say “My flip flops are really dirty and I’m stepping all over your stuff. Sucks for you.” I was like WOW. I told her she should have waited and I would have moved my stuff before she got in. Then she said “Too late, deal with it.” WTF?!
Then last night we all went out to a sports bar and my FI was the DD (everyone takes turns being DD, but she refuses because she can’t “deal with us” when she’s the only sober one). The sports bar ended up being really boring, so we decided to go back to Dave’s apartment.
My friend walked out of the bar early while we were paying our tabs and we didn’t know where she went. She told us she just wanted to go home because she didn’t feel like drinking, the chair she was sitting in was uncomfortable, and she was tired. All of which was fine, but Dave tried talking her into coming back and playing Catch Phrase with us because he thought she was mad for some reason. She went off on him saying he was “annoying as fuck” but she agreed to go back to his place anyway. By that time, I didn’t even want her to go because of how she was acting. She kept sighing really loudly and saying “Fine, I’m going! Don’t worry about it!”
So the entire night she sat on the couch on her phone while we played games. I just don’t know what to do. She acts like she can’t stand to be around us, but we are all going on a vacation together in a month. I really don’t want to spend 5 days with someone who acts like a child. Sigh.
How should I deal with her? I tried telling her last night that she comes off as rude sometimes, and she didn’t have anything to say.