(Closed) Need Help

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9672 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Nope, it’s not the job of the husband to “take care of” his wife in financial terms.  Marriage is an equal partnership – you take care of each other.  However, the two of you entered into this engagement knowing exactly where you both stood financially.  Your parents have done what parents do, which is take care of their child.  But you will soon be a married woman.  You’re an adult now.  Time to put on your big girl panties and step up and help your husband-to-be figure out your financial future.  Together.  This is not his responsibility alone and you’re no longer a child.

Post # 5
44 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

I can kind of give advice from his point of view. I’m in the same situation except it’s reversed for me. I have the steady job and can support the household..he doesn’t BUT we agreed he would help pay for the wedding too…he has not. I also am aware that when we got engaged I knew his financial standings and honestly I can’t get mad at him for not being able to help. I knew what I was getting my self into but you also need to feel a little for him. He is probably just stressed because that is alot on his shoulders too. Scale your wedding down. Thats what we are doing. It will be small and intimate. HUG!!! It will work out. You both need to be a team and work together on it.


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