Need Help!!

posted 2 months ago in Family
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

wanttoremainunknown :  We all have our own quirks, but I presume you will have your own bedroom. It wouldn’t bother me at all. I would be so appreciative of Father-In-Law paying for our accommodation. The communication could have been clearer, but the intent was good.

If you are not comfortable,don’t do it. Find your own accommodation.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

You seem really surprised about staying with *gasp* the opposite sex, but surely you aren’t sharing a bed with them! You’ll have your own room, no? 

Honestly I don’t get the drama? 

Post # 4
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818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I don’t see a problem with staying in a shared house with other wedding guests, as long as you have your own bedroom. I agree with PP that I would be very grateful that your accommodation was paid for as a kind gesture.

Post # 5
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5963 posts
Bee Keeper

I have searched for other houses in the town on Air bnb and there are none available. I’m hoping since my son is not coming we would stay with my father in law and his wife even if they have 6 dogs but how can we bring that up as an option?? I need serious help and quick if possible!!

No, I don’t think you can ask to stay there. He pretty much already told you he doesnt want you staying at his house, hence renting a different place. If there are actually NO alternate accomodations available, I’d probably suck it up. I’m assuming you’ll have your own room, will you have your own bathroom? If so that makes it pretty easy. If you’re sharing, that gets more complicated and I wouldn’t be comfortable with it either, but I also wouldn’t want my husband to miss his brothers wedding over it. 

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Same as what previous people have said OR if you really do not feel comfortable staying in that house, then find a hotel in the closest city that you can. Even if that means you have to drive a couple hours before and after the event. This will keep a literal distance between you/your husband and your husband’s family (which it sounds like you need). Do not rely on others.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I would probably have been a bit flustered by the fact that I wasn’t aware of the situation, but as a PP said, I assume you will have a private room.  I would talk to the Father-In-Law and request that you and your H get the master suite so that you hopefully can have an en suite for privacy reasons, but beyond that, it’s not a big deal.  

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

wanttoremainunknown :  My fiance is in a wedding this fall as a Groomsmen and the Bride & Groom have done the exact same thing. Rented an Air bnb for the bridal party and their spouses and partners to stay in. Myself included. I also have not met any other members of the bridal party. And in our case, we all have to split the cost of this accomodation (they didnt ask us about this before hand, just told us wehat it would cost us after they booked it. And they priced it per person, not per couple, but thats another story).

Honestly, it’s not that big of a deal. You’ll have your own private room, so if you want to get away from the rest of the wedding party – you are able too. It’s actually an opportunity to meet new people. If you are staying with your husband in this house, there are likely other ladies as well. Maybe you’ll make some new friends! I wouldn’t want to jepordize my partners relationship with family over a few people staying in the same house. I do understand your feelings towards it not being appropriate for your son – but that point became moot the moment he wasn’t attending with you.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I would want to know a few things before making my decision.  You said there were 5 groomsmen.  Whats the age rang of these men?  Are they all staying in this 3 bedroom house stag or do they have partners staying there too?  What if any room assignments have been made?

Three bedrooms with 6 couples would be problematic for me.  Likewise, 5 single men in their twenties having a frat party weekend wouldn’t appeal either.  And if I couldn’t get satisfactory answers to these questions, I would pass.

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