(Closed) Need help! brother engaged 3months after me picked the same wedding day

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think all you can do is sit down with them (or have a conference call if that’s not possible) and tell them that you need to come up with a solution to this. You either need to have a double wedding or find a way to find different dates.

Post # 4
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775 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’d be so angry! I’d punch her in the face. No but really, you need to talk to her about this and discuss something. Have her change her date. Tell her that YOU told her previously that you wanted this date and that you already have EVERYTHING booked (lie if you have to). You had invitations made, videographer, dj, venue, photographer booked and there is NO way you can change it.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@shawndy: Firstly could you clarify the date? She posted that she was pushing the date back to the 29th but yours is the 13? (Or 11th… your profile says the 11th)

That aside, my first piece of advice is to not tell your Future Sister-In-Law anything about your wedding planning. She doesn’t need to know your colors or flowers or anything until that day.

Secondly, how do they plan to have the same people in two different places at once? It’s not like you’re second cousins, you’re siblings- your immediate family is going to have to choose one of you? That seems really odd… after she set the date did you remind her that it was your wedding date? One of you will have to change the date if you’re planning on having your family at both, and it sounds like you have money invested already.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You said that she had already pushed her wedding back to the 29th.

 Is this still a problem for you?

If your wedding is first and she copies the same color scheme, it will be obvious that you chose the colors first.

Post # 8
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1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

get your invites out at least one month before her bwah ha ha!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am so sorry! First off I would talk to them and tell them that they need to change it. 2nd doesn’t sound like your brother even wants to marry her… Talk to him he probably just feels pressured

Post # 10
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1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

oh just saw she changed her date! im sorry this situation still sucks. She sounds like a brat.

Post # 11
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2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Maybe she forgot your wedding date? Considering how self-centred she sounds, that’s what my money’s on. : / I know it’s frustrating, but I guess now that she’s changed her date it’s not so bad anymore…is it?

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@shawndy: Can you not make your honeymoon trip revolve around a trip to your brother’s wedding?

They will also have expenses coming to your wedding just before theirs.

It is unfortunate that neither one of them have the sense to pick a date further from yours , but sometimes we just have to cope with the situation we find ourselves in.

Post # 15
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1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

As much as this sucks… and it really does, I’m sorry you have to deal with it… but do not let this heffa take away your special day!  Keep planning and just don’t tell her any more details of your wedding.  It sucks that their date is close to yours, but whatever.  Can’t control what other people do, no matter how stupid it is.  I think that you should plan your wedding just as if none of this ever happened.  You deserve the day of your dreams…

Post # 16
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1279 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I am so sorry this lady…if she can be called one…is ruining your special day.  You should not allow it to…if your brother and her drama affect your wedding then you have let them win…plan your wedding, have your beautiful day w/ or w/o them….it’s YOUR day don’t let them ruin it….it’s your day, make it about you and your Fiance not the drama.

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